I have recently (very recently - moved out a week ago) split up with my partner of 4 years. There were difficulties on both sides but the final straw for me was finding out about the OW. (Described in another thread).
It's all still very new and raw - I'm trying to settle in to my new place as well as processing what has happened in the relationship - I didn't want it to end & probably stayed longer than I should have done.
I have known my BF for over 30 years. We don't live near each other but try to meet up at least once a year. We stay in touch in a variety of ways - at the moment it tends to be by FB messenger with the odd phone call when we can.
She has been married over 20 years and as far as I know they are very happy and both lovely people. I'm close to their children.
As we've known each other for so long inevitably she has been with me through a number of ups and downs in my various relationships.
She (they) liked my recent ex a lot and we went on holiday together last year.
The reason I'm feeling a bit let down (& don't know if I'm being over sensitive given my current fragile emotional state) is because since I told her about the split (about 4 weeks ago I think) she has barely been in touch with me. A few (2?) messages and that's it.
I'm wondering if she thinks this is just another relationship disaster of which there have been several over the last 30 years. And in some ways it is - except I actually thought this one was going to last. I'm very sad and could do with people to talk to but she doesn't seem to be offering an ear or a shoulder.
She could have her own stuff going on - I know that. Perhaps the answer is to ask her but I suppose I'm a bit worried about what she'll say.
I think this has also made me realise that I don't have lots of friends these days - my life has been about my partner & family on the whole for 4 years.