No good can come of this, right?

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I'm happily married with 2DS. I have met an ex a couple of times recently having not seen him for years. He is also happily married with children. I don't want to be in a relationship with him. At all. And the feeling is mutual. But.....there is something nice about meeting up though. If I'm honest, we are pretty flirty with each other. Is it possible to be friends with an ex??

No

Not when you flirt with them

Possibly. But not if you're flirting with one another.

Well, possibly... Look at Simon Cowell. But from reading your post - it isn't as innocent as being just 'friends' is it. I wouldn't be flirty with an ex because it's disrespectful to my DH and I sure as shite wouldn't appreciate him being 'friends' with one of his exes. Step away from the ex xx

I'd have to say no...Does your DH know you meet up with your ex? If so how does he feel about it?

It's an appalling idea unless starting an affair sounds like a plan. This is, I assume you realise, how they start.

I would say it depends. It can be done, wouldn't care what anyone else thinks as its my life.

Yes, I told him before I met up with ex. He's fine about it. I would love to be friends with ex but just not sure it is possible. Both of us are flirty people anyway and it's so easy to fall back into the way we used to speak to each other. It is just flirting, nothing more but just not sure it's a good idea.........

That's how affairs begin?

It could be a bad idea but after finding out one ex had died kind of makes me look differently at it. Depends how much they mean to you?

No it won't .

Leave him to his wife.

Meeting an ex and being flirty under the guise of being friends, not wanting a relationship whilst also feeling it's "nice" to meet up.

Yes this is a perfect idea and won't end badly at all.

I really am friends with a couple of exes and we don't flirt with one another. We don't make each other feel good or exciting. We are just friends. I like them but the idea of kissing them makes me shudder now. We might talk about things that happened before but it's not all misty eyed and reminiscing it's factual and just chatting, for instance about nice food we might have eaten or a friend we know

Yes and sometimes seeing them in the cold light of day takes any excitement out of it. Could even be boring.

I think if someone is a nice person you can build a friendship but I have never felt like I was doing anything potentially wrong or that it was no good. Listen to that feeling!

Don't be a pillock

I'm a flirty person. I'm friends with one serious ex. I do not flirt with him.

I don't want him getting the wrong idea, I don't want my DP feeling disrespected (and he probably wouldn't even care, but it's how I would like to be treated) and I never want to be tempted to be an idiot if my actual relationship went through a rough patch. I really value our friendship; it's a friendship that comes with boundaries but that's cool.

What you're doing doesn't sound cool - it sounds dangerous. I don't think you'd be asking if it wasn't.

Don't.

Yes it is possible, one of my closest friends is an ex.

We don't flirt though, that side of things is long, long gone.

Thanks everyone - you've all confirmed what I thought! I just don't think we can be friends. We weren't friends before we were together and have no friends in common. We didn't part on bad terms (he moved away) so no bad feelings.

The last thing in the world I want to do is jeopardise my relationship (or his - I would never want to be ' that woman'), so best just to nip it in the bud now.

Have a lovely weekend everyone

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