partner is so selfish

[niki1312]

Hey I need support and someone to talk to really.

Me and my partner have been together almost 7 years (since we were 18 ) we have two boys aged 5 & 2 and baby boy number 3 is due Dec 2016.
He is so selfish its ridiculous, take this morning for example I asked him to get out of bed at 8am to take care of our youngest so I could take our eldest to school ( he never takes him or picks him up) he waited until 8.50am when he should already have been at school before he got up all the wile I was shouting getting stressed out because we were going to be late. He ignored my shouts and sat on the bed longer. Then I've gone right through the house cleaning and he has been asleep from 12 noon until I told him for the fourth time he needed to get up so I could pick our son up from school (so he slept from 12 noon until 2.30) while I cleaned, cooked and saw to our youngest. Now hes currently sat playing on his ps4 while I see to the kids dinner.

Previously he has said things in arguments like he doesn't love me, he should be living his life not settling down with me (7years and three kids too late to be saying that) that I'm the biggest mistake of his life amongst other things.

And yes he does work but only in a retail store having to be up maybe once twice week at 6am and the rest of the time he gets up at 10.30am to then leave for the bus to work at 11.05 not seeing his kids for more than 2 minutes. I do not get lie ins, I cook, clean and see to the kids al day I'm so tierd and feel like he has no respect for me at all and asif he thinks he works an actual job while I'm just a housewife and mammy. As if its not hard work and that I'm not entitled to be tierd even when I'm 27 weeks pregnant.

[LEIGH350]

If you chuck him out, he will demand access to the children, which means he will HAVE to take them for X hours a week. So you would finally get him to help with the kids!

[SandyY2K]

You'd get a break if you split up. Every other weekend and one night in the week is standard.

^^^^ So true.

[Amelie10]

So he's always been this way and yet you keep having kids with him? Wake up.

[user1473368252]

One thing I do know for sure is if he can't be bothered to grow up and be a real man for his kids and you then his never going to be. Baby men are exactly that they have no intention of changing unless you force their hand which you either do or stay on the ride and hope his changes my guess you're still young a very much doubt it!

[adora1]

He's a disgrace. Split, share the care and show your children how a real grown up behaves.

I don't care how much you love him, it's not reciprocated so no point.

[mouldycheesefan]

Not sure why you have kept having more babies with him if the crap behaviour started after baby number one.
Time to ditch him, he is a hopeless case and you deserve better.

[HuskyLover1]

Previously he has said things in arguments like he doesn't love me, he should be living his life not settling down with me (7years and three kids too late to be saying that) that I'm the biggest mistake of his life amongst other things

^^ This statement is truly worrying to me. A lot of people feel trapped in relationships. He is actually admitting this to your face. He wants out. Does he go out a lot, with his friends? I'd be very suspicious as to whether he fancies sowing his wild oats.

I suspect you are the only woman he's been with, and he is maybe regretting that and would like freedom.

He made 3 babies with you. I would say split and like PP have suggested you will be free of someone who is so awful to you, and you'll be less tired as he will have to have the children on weekends and overnights.

Not easy when you are pregnant, obviously.

[RaRaRamona]

Sadly for you, you are are in a non loving relationship. He does not love you and I am not sure how you feel about him as everyday life is taking up all your emotional thinking time.