Single mum...just met a guy after being single for a year

[hotsunnyweather]

I was having a tea alone in town when a guy caught my look and came and asked if he could join me.
Out of my norm I said yes and we began chatting and met up again later that eve.
My child was with father for weekend and I feel I rushed into sleeping with this guy on first night. It had been over a year since I had slept with anyone or had dated. I feel upset at myself for doing this. He has called me a few times, is curious about me, tells me a fair bit about himself. I have seen him/slept with again. I worry he might have other motives.
I will not let my child be introduced to him and will definetly keep it seperate.
I am 43, he thought I was 38 and he is 45. He has never been married and doesn't have children.

[Madinche1sea]

hotsunny - I'm really sorry it's panned out like this. It is definitely NOT a test for you, by the way. Why would you think this?

What it is is really disingenuous, not to mention ungentlemanly behaviour - particularly from a man in his 40s. He should be going all out to treat you. If this is his attitude at the outset of a relationship, can you imagine what he would be like a few months / years in?

Do you not find his sponging a complete turn off?

Cut your losses now.

[aLeopardanditsSpots]

Never mind he might be a conman I'd bet my bottom dollar he is one.
Regardless him being a conman or not he's not making you happy or to feel good about yourself. Please don't see him again, entitled boundary pushing people can be very very dangerous

[hotsunnyweather]

I will not answer his calls and then send a message that it is not working.

I was reading up on relationship advice from a popular relationship therapist and it has got me really confused. It says that guys can do all sorts of "weird things" like this to test girls.

I just don't have the energy or time taking full time care of my young child.

I feel frustrated at times as it is hard to meet people in this situation. I am going back to work and I am looking to get Au pair help with my son.

I am really ready to date again after a quite some time and maybe I should use the Au pair for odd evenings. I do love doing things/spending time with my child but I need to do something for myself.

This time no man is to meet my child unless something serious is about to happen.