So me and my OH have a 11 week old baby, been together 2 years.
Now I saw the other night he had been messaging one of his "clients". He is an estate agent. There were a lot of wink emojis and stuff in the messaging but from what I could see there was nothing overly bad in the context. I also know he searched this women on FB too. Yesterday he had an appointment at her house to put it on the market. It was a late appointment and said he would be home by 7. Got to seven and still weren't home so rang to ask when he would be home for tea. When we went to bed at 9 he complained on feeling really ill but had an email to send so I said ok and went to sleep next to him. Woke up at 1 as LO was jiggling around, I know this is bad but I did have a look at his phone and saw all messages with this client had been deleted apart from one message saying "it's time I was sleeping now :)" this was at 11pm!
I'm not going crazy am I, this does look suspicious??!
Before people say that I shouldn't have looked at his phone, I know I was wrong but in the past he has lied too. I found out he had been messaging a few girls in the past and that time I didn't look through his phone. Never any evidence of physical cheating. We have been arguing more since I've given birth.
What are people's opinions from an outside perspective? I am getting sick of the lies now, I guess I've stayed so far because of our little boy.