Lots of lovely advice in past from other mumsnetters but help needed again.
ExP left me pregnant for OW. Baby is now few months old. All doing fine etc. Both toddler and new baby spend time with him. Been hard like any breakup would, this was more challenging but got over it all eventually. Just want whats best for kids etc.
Problems with child maintenance have resulted in me going to CMS, after he told me "just go through CSA"
My situation now is that I'm moving, 20 minutes away, to be closer to my family and I know he is going to argue with this. He has parental rights, on both birth certs.
I've researched all the reasons, lower crime, better school etc and it's a fresh start (currently still in rented house we shared) which if it helps me mentally, can only help the kids.
Right now, we only live 5 minutes away from each other but he knows I can't afford to stay in this house. I applied for council housing and was told it would take 6+ months to be rehoused, so I intended on talking it all through with him.
However, two weeks later, they found me a place and if I didn't take it, I would have lost it and it was a good house! So we never had time to discuss it properly (although he knew it was a long term plan, ages ago)
I drive and have told him that when I move, I will see to it that I transport the kids to him (they'd be in their car seats, which to me is safer than sitting loose in a taxi or buses) so effectively nothing is going to change for him, other than where I'm living.
He's never dropped in on the kids and is usually cancelling dates to see them anyway, so I don't really know what the problem is because it's still classed as the same City!
But he is a difficult character (narc) with only his own interests at heart and often starts unnecessary drama with me.
I know he is going to throw "court" at me and allsorts but I'm not changing any arrangement we have in place now!
Please help me how to respond to him with dignity, when he starts accusing me of taking his kids away from him. I'm trying not to drag feelings of him walking away from them whilst I was pregnant, as his choice to do that but I'm getting annoyed he thinks he can start over and I'm just expected to stay round here to benefit him.