Porn and Strip Clubs as a Deal Breaker?

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I am a long term inmate of mumsnet. Many name changes & much good advice, which I am in need of once again.

I worked as a topless model in my teens & then moved onto the more morally corrupt career of banking. I married young, had 2 Dcs, divorced. I then worked in the bar of a strip club to fund my degree (2:1 hons ).

I'm now in my 40s, stayed in touch with an ex (not father of Dcs) for over 20 years (now ex military).

We have met up a lot over the past couple of months. He knows my history.
Ive recently come into some money. He suggested I invest it in a strip club
I told him how I felt (again - he already knows how I feel). A few swear words were involved on my part.

I don't think he gets it. He's now saying if he knew how I felt he wouldn't have said it. To me, that's not the point. He's also said I have used this as an excuse to tell him I think he's a joke

Arrrrrrrgh. I know I'm going to drip feed & apologies in advance. I'm just feeling the rage.

I'm now reverting back to pre therapy & counselling & wanting to apologise to him (for having an opinion??? Ffs???)

Fuckity Fuck, please tell me what you think.
Ta in advance
(if I don't answer straight away it's because I'm looking after a very elderly relative - more stress)

OP

You have every right to change your views. We learn as we get older.

Don't justify what you did in your younger years, it's gone, you can't change it, It doesn't matter. Don't be hard on yourself.

You've told him your views, good on you. You are entitled to your opinion as we all are. Ignore that vulnerable teen voice telling you to apologise. There is nothing to apologise for.

I hope caring for relative isn't too stressful, and wish you well x

What dealbreaker? He's your friend and based on a historic career he made a suggestion how to invest your money. I think you're really going ott with your response tbh! I really don't understand what deal this 'revelation ' has jeopardised

Blimey, D. I have a couple of mates who have (small time) haulage businesses.

I feel sad that you are damaged by your past, you were vulnerable and taken advantage of, please be proud of who you are.

Of course it's not too late to change your mind- what an absurd (and damaging) position.

I'm not sure why you're so annoyed with him tho- you've told him your views- has he not accepted them?