I've not been with my partner that long but last year we were (or should I say "I was") looking into going abroad. DP said he wanted to go away too so I said we should get some brochures...he never made any effort to get any so I got picked some up from the travel agents, I asked him where he wanted to go and everytime I got the same responce "they're all hilly with palm tree's and white buildings so anywhere, they're all the same" I spent alot of time going through the brochure looking for something that would suit all of us, whenever I tried to show DP he wasn't interested and was more interested in the TV. After a more heated discussion he agreed to come to the travel agents with me to get a quote for Majorca, as we went in he noticed that Dixons (next door) were having a sale...he said "you go in and find someone to talk to about a quote, I'll be with you in a few minutes" so I went in, tried to waste some time looking around and there was still no sign of him after 15 minutes and people were starting to look at me funny so I asked to see someone about a quote, 5 minutes later I got sat down at a desk and asked where I wanted to go etc...still no sign of DP. Half an hour past, I got my quote and headed outside where DP was heading towards the travel agents with a Dixons bag, the first thing he said to me was not "how did it go" but "hey, I managed to get an xbox 360 for under £300 with games etc!". I ignored him and said "well, I got the quote.." and he just sort of looked at his bag and uttered "oh? what did they say?" he was blatently not interested.
So when we got home I told him about the quote and went to show him the hotel in the brochure, he was busy setting up the xbox and said he'd look later but he never did . So I forgot about it, booked a week away in London for me and the kids and didnt invite him. He went in a massive strop saying it would've been nice to be asked, I told him why he wasnt.
We split up shortly afterwards.
We were on the verge of getting back together when he told me he'd got some good quotes for the Canaries, I asked him if he wanted to come to the travel agents with me (again) and he said he would. So anyway we got to the travel agents and on the spare of the moment I booked a holiday to Ibiza for all of us, DP said he would pay half towards it. The travel agent gave us the brochure with the hotel etc in and we went home.
Now here is my problem, DP has not once looked at the brochure (again), he doesnt speak about the holiday and when I mention it he usually replies with something stupid trying to be funny and then changes the subject.
My friend said all men are like this, they prefer to book and forget...is this right?? it would be so nice to have a proper discussion with him over it, surely that's not expecting too much is it??