Partner of 15 years has been caught cheating, discovered on phone after I had hunch due to his out of character nasty personal comments during a petty argument. He initially lied, but once he new I read messages on work phone had to come clean. Only the whole story of what was going on was fabricated. I had to discover the truth myself. Like being drip fed pain over weeks. OH worked away and had met OW on one of numerous online dating sites he joined. Not a word to me about any unhappiness between us. Everyone adores him, but he is a brickwall emotionally to me. He has said he has made big mistake but I feel I have mistaken his character and he has made choices he new very well were a deal breaker. I feel fooled, and its not my trust in him but my own judgement, I adored him. Don't know what to do, two kids and another on the way. I feel he is only doing the minimum to get back in the house. I am so f'ng angry and past being devastated. I need to move forward obviously but scared.