We've been together 5 years, had our first baby 8 months ago. My partner is a lovely, kind, considerate, intelligent man and I love him but sometimes I just WISH he was a bit more romantic. Now I'm not materialistic at all. We're both quite pragmatic people. Its just that I'd love if he just surprised me once in a while...flowers...a tiny gift...even a little note in my bag or...well, anything...a spontaneous massage that doesn't mean sex. But does anyone's husband/partner actually do these things? Of course I've told him, loads of times, that particularly since becoming a mum and having to devote 99% of my time to baby-care and housework (I work part-time from home and he works long hours outside the house so the bulk of domestic/care work is mine, although he tries his best to contribute when he gets home) I could REALLY do with a gesture. He said if I want money for something he'll give it to me. Um...this kind of misses the point. I said it would be nice to have physical contact that doesn't have to result in full sex (I have ZERO sex drive since birth...but that's another story) but if he comes near me for cuddles he can't help but want sex. I said I'd appreciate some flowers or a small gift but nothing so far...He said we can go anywhere or do anything but I don't want it to be my idea ...I want surprise, I want romance! Is that crazy? I never used to care about it before...