Overbearing DM and crap ex or am I being unfair/immature?

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Long story short, DM is very opinionated and still sometimes tries to talk to me like I haven't got a clue about anything/a teenager. Despite having a 5yr old DS and being an adult myself.

DS's dad moved about 3-4hrs away recently along with his mother, both knowing they would be much further from DS than originally (they lived in the next town over/10 mins away before. Now he is expecting me to drive to meet him halfway for contact weekends (twice a month at the moment). I have a slight issue with this as it's a horrid area to drive in, I've been struggling with my mental health all summer (chronic depression/anxiety) and to be honest I feel annoyed that they moved and presumed I'd pick up the slack when I'm a full time student myself and single parent (petrol is NOT cheap).

My DM rang me up twice in the last three days to tell me I'm being an unreasonable bitch and making life really hard for DS's dad, who's "worked harder than yo/ (I) ever have", and I'm being difficult to get at his dad. I'm not, I just feel frustrated with how complicated things are now they live so far away. DS's dad has not been that involved anway even when he lived close by so to me it just seems like another crap decision on his dad's part.

I want to do what's best for DS but DS says he dislikes the drive despite loving being there etc. I'm really angry/hurt that my DM has come out with the stuff she did. I doubt myself and my decisions all the time as it is what with the mental health issues and being a single parent/first time parent. I'm starting Uni again very soon and I just wish life was a bit easier. Am I being an idiot to be upset about her approach to the situation?

If you want to compromise ( and not saying you need to) you could offer to do half way every other weekend he is there (or say drop off but ex brings him all the way home ) but only if ex gives you petrol money to do so.
Good luck with uni.

Stick to your guns, OP.

He's moved away - he needs to sort out how he sees his son.
You do NOT need to meet halfway, or facilitate it in any way - contact is up to him

Do not let your mother 'take' your dc - not her business, and you don't want her dripping 'unreasonable bitch' and other poison into your dc ears on a 2 hour drive.

Stoip telling your mum this stuff - where else does she get it from? Is she in contact with Ex?

Stand your ground - you are totally NOT being unreasonable.

Up to him to drive, not you. Stop telling your DM stuff, then she can't have a go.

Thanks

The CM is not help. It's his legal obligation as a parent. He is not doing you any favours, he is doing the bare minimum by paying it. The money is for his child. You should not feel grateful for it. It's only right that he pays it

True. What I mean is that I'm not a spiteful person. I've tried to be understanding etc. But I can only take so much.