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World's Most Rubbish Proposal...

59 replies

plutoisnotaplanet · 31/08/2016 08:25

... but it was perfect all the same Grin

I knew he was going out to buy a ring yesterday, we've been together 8 years and have a date set for the wedding already, so yesterday morning he announced he was off into town to ring shop... i asked him who it was for Hmm

Anyway, I gradually got really excited throughout the day then he rang me at about 4pm and I asked if he'd been into town... he said no... I was absolutely crushed. It was then I realised the whole engagement thing must mean more to me than i thought and the fact he hadn't got a ring today like he said he would felt like a massive blow.

Turns out he was trying to throw me off the scent and had actually got the ring, but he was a bit too good at lying and it massively backfired Blush

Anyway! Fast forward a couple of hours and I'm sat on the sofa, DP calls me into the kitchen, gets down on one knee, the dogs think he's about to play with them so jump on him and push him over... ring box goes flying across the floor and gets stuck under a kitchen cupboard Blush

Poor DP spends 15 mins fishing under the cupboard with a coat hanger to retrieve ring box while I absolutely die laughing and the dogs try to lick his face..

Ring box was eventually retrieved and dogs secure in the other room, DP proposed on the kitchen floor and I, of course, said yes Grin

He then had to go out to work so I spent the rest of the evening in the bath with a glass of wine researching venues...

We were going to DTD (obviously) when he got home but he was really tired.. made a valiant effort but it was not to be Blush

We are off out tonight to celebrate properly so hopefully we can redeem it!

Make me feel better, has anyone else had a worse proposal?

OP posts:
furryminkymoo · 31/08/2016 16:23

My ex fiancé didn't really propose, he just turned up to my work one day, said that he wanted to take me for lunch, then outside he said that I was to show him some sparkly things, I obliged, we chose a 3 stone ring, I had loved a solitaire but he talked me out of it, it needed sizing so he paid for it and I returned to work, then I had to collect it a week or so later and delivered it to his house. Then on Christmas morning he gave it to me, no proposal. Most odd. Didn't marry him.

My proposal from DH was lovely, I got a stunning solitaire.

ExhaustedandScatterBrained · 31/08/2016 16:41

Cingratulations! Thats a syory to tell the grandkids Smile

The morning of my 30th birthday my toddler brought me a little box, thought it was likely earrings as I've known since the beginning oh wasn't the type to get married. Oh stood there as i unwrapped the box to a beautiful sapphire and diamond ring and just said "will you be my wife" the ring was 3 sizes too small but we are getting married next year and now knows my ring size incase he wants to buy me any other beautiful rings Wink

ExhaustedandScatterBrained · 31/08/2016 16:42

Congratulations story*
Sorry for the typos, 9 month old grabbing the phone as i type!

squizita · 31/08/2016 17:21

Congratulations!

My DH told me on valentines day "I'm going to propose to you later this year, is that a good idea?"
Well it's kind of a proposal isn't it.
15 minutes later he's calling his family for the "family ring" saying "yeah I kind of prematurely proposed and she wants the ring now for some reason..."

SoupDragon · 31/08/2016 17:25

It's a fabulous story and congratulations Flowers

But how do you have a date set for a wedding if you've not had a proposal??! Confused am I terribly old fashioned? :o

ImperialBlether · 31/08/2016 17:26

Congratulations, OP and STBH. Beautiful ring and very funny story.

HOWEVER, this has to be my favourite: My ex husband said 'my divorce has come through, here's £60, go and buy the cheapest ring in Argos'.

LastOneDancing · 31/08/2016 17:33

Congrats OP!

We were in holiday. My now DH asked me to come out onto the balcony which had a gorgeous view over a Turkish bay. We stood there awkwardly for what felt like days, then I went back in. He came into the bedroom and huffed 'I was going to propose but I've just had a text off X (his closest friend) that he's just got engaged to Y, so I don't want to now'. The other couple knew he was going to propose btw - Y had got a bit uber competitive about who would get engaged first and have the best quality diamond (I know - WTF?) so maybe she initiated it, who knows.

My face was Confused his was Sad and we went out and got horribly pissed on red wine instead.
When we got back he literally tossed the ring box on the table and said 'I've bought it all this way in my shoe, you might as well wear it'.

And that MNers, was his proposal.

If im honest, I stewed silently about it for ages, i know it didnt matter really but it stung that he let someone elses games spoil a once in a lifetime moment.
Anyway, he took me away the weekend before our wedding and got down on one knee and actually asked the question Smile
We are very happily married with two beautiful boys.

DaisyBD · 31/08/2016 17:33

I found a post-it in my purse with 'will you marry me then?' scribbled on it in pencil. I was miles away from him by then, I'd left his house early in the morning to go to a festival with some friends and I was queuing up to get thai food at lunchtime. I texted him 'yes' and that was that! we'd only been seeing each other four months and it was totally spur of the moment - we'd been discussing whether we might live together one day and I'd said I didn't really want to live with anyone without being married.

I know we totally rushed into things but we've been married five years and happier than ever. I'm not bothered about the proposal - and I got to choose my own ring later Grin

DaisyBD · 31/08/2016 17:35

oops, also congratulations! Blush. lovely story and lovely ring!

Lunahoneydew · 31/08/2016 17:58

6 months pregnant, took me for a lovely weekend in London to celebrate my 30th birthday. He was going to propose in Harrods champagne bar but that went wrong after I was embarrassed by the waitress when I asked for a bucks fizz. I was asked if I thought that was appropriate in my condition. Agreed, alcohol and pregnancy is a no-no but half a glass of bubbles to celebrate my 30th birthday was none of her business if I was pregnant or not! That was the moment ruined for him!

Proposed to me later at the 5 star hotel in a big bath of bubbles. I was so surprised, I started crying, mascara down my face and then let out a massive fart. Blush

We tried to stay serious but it ended with us both in fits of laughter!

Carlym26 · 31/08/2016 18:11

Congratulations beautiful ring... So here's our story.
We had just found out I was pregnant and was sat in doctors waiting room as I was very sick and dp turned around and asked if I'd mind having his mum's original engagement ring (another long story) as mine I said of course not thinking that was that.... The ring then sat on his bedside table in our bedroom in full view until I was 8.5 Months gone when he rang me on the way home and asked if I fancied going out for a meal (not out of the ordinary) luckily I put on a nice top and some make up and we went to a nice restaurant and he put the ring on the table and said there u go then.... That ladies was my proposal I was a little disappointed however didn't have time to think it over as baby came a month later 😊 "Baby" is 3 this November

Original poster
plutoisnotaplanet · 31/08/2016 18:40

Haha these are amazing!

The set the date before engagement thing: DP wants to get married on our 10 year anniversary which just happens to fall on a Saturday, and I think it's a lovely idea. we have had the wedding discussion many many many times over the last 8.5 years and it's always been on the cards, especially seeing as we have a joint mortgage and a couple of dogs now too. If we were 2 years in to the relationship it would be pretty unromantic to set the date before the wedding, but at nearly 9 years in it was quite sweet when DP suggested it!

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Ahardmanisgoodtofind · 31/08/2016 19:54

Congratulations
Dp and I got together in our early 20,after a drunken conversation about marriage ( I'd had a very short catastrophic marriage already) etc I set down some twaty rules.like not at Christmas.had to be romantic and thoughtful and unique to us (god I was a pillock)
Fast forward 9 plus years,dc,mortgage blah blah and still no proposal.told him he'd better get a move on I wanted to get married while dgp still alive.
We took two weeks annual leave..did lots of potentially romantic things (sunset walks on beach..picnic by waterfalls blah blah) each time he'd act slightly off (nerves in hind sight) so I'd get grumpy.have a tiff/strop get home make up.we sat at home pissed one night and I said do you even want to marry me.?
"I've already got the ring"
"Liar"
"I have.I've been trying to find the perfect moment"
"Liar"
"I wanted it to be perfect"
"Bullshit.you can't keep secrets and what about when we went Xyz?hmmm?"
Goes off to get refils.hands me drink.I knock it back and there's my dream ring (that I hadn't shown him before because it was pricey) under my lemon wedge.
"Told you so" getting hitched next year.

ChubbyMummy12 · 31/08/2016 20:19

We had had a little tiff earlier on in the morning, I'd been grumpy with him all day, we sat down in the evening and was watching the inbetweeners movie when he stomped off upstairs came back down with a little box, got on one knee and asked me to marry him, (3 years ago) and we finally got married 3 weeks ago :)

Emilyanne28 · 31/08/2016 20:52

My sons father proposed to me during sex. No ring for a year and only then because I kicked up a fuss. Not together any more surprisingly.

Gallievans · 31/08/2016 21:21

We'd just moved in together and had been unpacking things. Sitting in the lounge with well earned glass of wine, he disappears off. Comes back and is in front of me. I asked him what he'd broken as he looked so nervous and I hadn't twigged he was on one knee. 19 years of marriage later he still reminds me!

Gallievans · 31/08/2016 21:22

Congratulations by the way OP, he seems a good 'un!Flowers

CharminglyGawky · 31/08/2016 21:46

Congratulations op!

I told DH to go away because his hovering next to me like that was creepy... Poor bloke!

amammabear · 01/09/2016 00:45

proposal? what's one of those? lol!

EttaJ · 01/09/2016 00:48

Aw congratulations! Love the proposal!

Lethimbloodygrowup · 01/09/2016 03:20

Back in febury my mum offered to pay for me and the missus to go to Rome, the weekend of the 14th, i thought to myself i couldnt turn this down so went out and brought a ring!

Anyway i didnt realise untill the evening we was due to fly out but that last week i had been acting really funny, i guess im was nervous a shit! Well me and the missus had a bit of an argument because she was convinced i was gonna split up with her!

To cut a long story short, i popped the question there and then in bedroom, missus was gobsmacked, she was very sorry that she had fucked up my plans, but we now just trll people i popped the question in rome

Justjade88 · 01/09/2016 07:54

Oh dear haha. Congratulations :). The worst story i have come across was.. My sister and her partner went to Paris to the very top of the Eiffel tower for him to get down on one knee and look into her eyes and say 'one day I will marry you!!!'. We never let him live it down. He did eventually get down on one knee and they have now been happily married 3 years.
My partner proposed to me on Xmas day (my bday too) it's my fab time of the year, each Xmas we get the kids in our bed to open all their prezzies from Santa in their stockings, 2 xmas' ago he handed me a little stocking and I thought Aww that's sweet then I pulled the ring box out then the ring and he said 'will you marry' to which I replied 'shut up' haha I cried and laughed totally forgot to say yes 😂. He said he had been thinking of many ways including getting a sign made lol. But for me this was the best way he could of done it, very thoughtful.

Womenareliketeabags · 01/09/2016 08:00

My DH's 'first' proposal was when we were both very very drunk and he was having a piss down a back alley and turned towards me, nearly pissed all over my legs and said 'are you going to fucking marry me or what?' Highly romantic. Not. I just laughed at him but I knew we would. And 4 years later we did get married.

DillyDingDillyDong · 01/09/2016 08:11

DH had planned a big romantic thing. We were on holiday and went for a walk to find this particular part of the island. He'd arranged for someone to set up a picnic with champagne and for there to be someone playing music.

Unfortunately we took a wrong turn and after almost two hours of walking around in my not so comfy sandals we stopped. I was being a bit dramatic and said "This walk is endless, I feel like I'm in Lord of the Rings!" To which he laughed and said "Well, I am carrying a ring...I mean, I'm not. They do in the film though...errrr...have you got a ring on?...errrr...lets keep walking." I was so confused and thought he had sun stroke or something and asked if he was ok and then he stopped and said "Ah shit, this isn't right. We shouldn't be here. Fuck it." Then hot down on one knee and pulled out the ring and popped the question.

I said yes but was annoyed at the "Fuck it" just before asking. We eventually found the spot which was beautiful and had our champagne, the food was a bit too warm to eat. We sat and watched the sunset and then he asked for the ring back because I deserved an actual proposal. He had prepared a few romantic words and then asked again to which I said "Fuck it...yes!"

Congratulations OP! You have a unique engagement story to tell for years to come.

turndial · 01/09/2016 08:12

Picked up DH after a brewery tour with DSS in tow, we went for a family meal and DH in inebriated state says 'who wants to go to Miami on holiday!' DSS was delighted at daddy's idea, I said I'd rather use the money to go home (Oz) and see my family. He then whispers 'but we can get married in Miami' (as in quick Vegas type wedding which is what I wanted!)
For 2 weeks I wasn't actually sure if he meant it or if he was just too drunk to remember, until we were at local for a pint and he says 'I suppose I should buy you a ring then' at which point I said yes but it has to be yellow gold etc. What I didn't know is that he had already bought it and took me a few days later to have it sized. It was white gold Blush