I have three dcs with ex h, left him 3 years ago he was physically and emotionally abusive and a bully. Contact with dcs has always been on his terms - he sees them one weekend day, recently it's become every Saturday but he won't actually comit to this he still advises me each week. Now, he has asked for them to stay over on a Friday, which is ok, however, I am going to suggest every other Friday as I feel that every Friday will mean I get little weekend time with them as 1dc plays football on Sunday's. They have also been away with ex recently and were up very, very late - I have some concerns that should this occur when they stay with him the school routine and work will be effected, I work also and we have to be up and out during the week. Am I being fair? I have never stopped him seeing them and always try to do what's best for them. Thank you for reading:)