To sleep with a potential FuckBuddy or not

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I met a guy today who is very hot.
His personality wasn't ideal but I think I can cope with it.
I'm worried I'll get hurt but, if I'm honest, I'm a bit desperate. But I'm easily hurt.
It's not easy to separate liking a personality to have a good sexual relationship is it?
I thought I would be fine with it as he's very handsome and I asked him out based on that and his smile.
Now I'm having doubts and I don't know what to do.
I think his confident and charm make me wary. He can make all the right moves, but I think he's able to switch them off again easily and that leaves me open to being used, even though I approached him.
I feel vulnerable.
But am a bit desperate I guess if I'm honest? Low self esteem so if this guy is happy to enter into a relationship I'm thinking "why not?".

God I have PROBLEMS!

It would be really interesting to hear people's experiences of getting involved in casual relationships but protecting themselves from getting hurt.
It's just a bad idea isn't it, and I'm still drawn. Sigh. I feel like I've experienced the low of post sex I will feel. This is after meeting and kissing etc for the first time.

Sorry to be crass and base.

You don't have to do what strangers on the internet tell you

If you had a good time with him then keep on seeing him - why not?

Well if this is going the be turned onto a FWB situation prepare to be hurt its easier for men to screw around but women get more emotionally involved and hurt.

But you know this don't you?.

How do you know this "just"? Are you a woman?

That's true too Lottie
FWB is the term I was looking for rather than F-buddy.
I don't like him yet and his personality doesn't seem conducive to liking or respecting. So hopefully I can tolerate and enjoy the ride. Some experiences are worth it. Hopefully this is one of them.

I know I seem harsh but I think I am missing the point entirely about why this would be an enjoyable experience with an intolerable man with a crap disrespectful personality but if you want to convince yourself it's fun then nothing anyone says to give you advice will change that.

Good luck X

Ok FWB is a friend with benefits ie someone you actually like and get on with but additionally have an arrangement to shag on the side when mutually convenient. You don't like this guy so you shouldn't have sex with him.

You had a really nice time but you don't like him yet? I don't get your mindset sorry.

When you say you hope you can tolerate him, It's as if you are forcing yourself. Why would you do that?

OP, keep your pants on a bit longer, enjoy fantasising about what it might be like. Once you get to know him a bit more, you might be glad you didn't shag him. There is nothing wrong with having a fuck buddy, if you can handle it. Actually liking the man, would make it a more pleasurable experience.

He may be hot, but i bet he didn't bargain on a full blown stalker. Standing outside his house (wtf?), and trying to convince yourself and the whole of mumsnet that your the one in control, when your posts say the opposite-go home, value yourself and stop trying to kid yourself. You aren't in control in many ways

Nothing wrong with having a fuckbuddy if you so choose OP, but you have to be in the right and rational frame of mind for that. You are not.

& if the fuckbuddy thing was for you, you wouldn't be angsting about it so much and already worrying about and admitting that you are going to be easily hurt. Leave this alone and find something else to occupy your mind and time for now. Get into stuff you like doing, get out and about more etc and perhaps revisit this at a future date

Don't bring head and heart stress into your life its not worth how shit you will feel about it

I'm going to try and play things cool. I need to learn to be more sturdy and strong and This will be a good learning opportunity.
I've never in my life found a man attractive. I've always gone for personalities which is fine and good for LTR but this is for enjoyment.

I wasn't stalking. I was waiting for him pre-arranged. It was the late hour that freaked me out. He was at work hence the hour.

I'm going to enjoy the ride.
And take it slow.

No OP, you are going to get shat on, from a great height.
How old are you sixteen ?
Get a grip, hanging round his house, for goodness sake.
Soon you'll be expecting us to pick up the pieces.
Hope this sinks in, but I doubt it.

Normally I would say a FB is a good idea if that is what you want and are mentally prepared for it.
You are NOT!!!
Please don't do this to yourself.
It really will end in tears.
Walk away, head held high, block and ignore.

RubbishMantra FYI 100% man. Just noted this by observation of the behaviours of the female of the species over some 10's of years.

Notice too that there are a lot of women here who see it much the same way.

Still we'll see how the OP gets on. Sure she'll keep us informed.

Mmmn, let me look into my crystal ball.
You will ignore the all advice given on here.
You will get together with your fuck buddy.
It will provide a nice (or not so nice )drama that distracts you from the real issues in your life.
You will come back on here when it goes tits up and boohoo about what went wrong...
You will ignore the advice given on here.
Rinse and repeat .
Good luck.

Well seeing as some of you would like to scoff and berate, And additionally you know what will happen, I won't bother updating or sharing further. Apologies for not living my life as well as you do.
Thanks for the helpful replies.
I'm out.

If you're thinking about it from a relationship perspective and the prospect of being used then you won't be able to handle a fuck buddy situation. Work on your own self esteem etc first.