I hate my husband

[happybiggirl]

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HIGHLY unlikely he'd get the children if you're a SAHM, he's bluffing and threatening you.

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You are there mother at the end of the day and surely you stand more chance of keeping your children than he does especially if he is not nice person. Courts would not want a man who swears at his wife and cant treat his wife well to look after children especially as you have been the one looking after them since day 1 as a SAHM. He maybe saying it just to keep you quite and maybe you should scare him and take the children away for a few days? Would you have anywhere to go?

He would have to pay benefits (or whatever it is called) to the childen if you divorced.

do you want to go to relate anymore? or do you just want an end to this ?

see a solicitor, find out where you stand legally, and the odds of him having the children, which i imagine, are minuscule.....

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Contact your local domestic violence advice service. They will be able to give you good legal advice. Don't feel that you can't call them because he's 'not violent'. This man may not be hitting you but he is psychologically abusing you. And he may well progress towards hitting you.
Best of luck.

Happybiggirl - agree with everyone here. Get some legal advice and get in touch with the national centre for domestic violence. You can call them on 08709 220704 or 08009 702070. At the least, if it gets nasty in court you can show how worried you were by calling these people. Good luck.

You might also like to read Women's Aid's definition of domestic violence:

"In Women's Aid's view domestic violence is physical, sexual, psychological or financial violence that takes place within an intimate or family-type relationship and that forms a pattern of coercive and controlling behaviour."