Hello,I'm new to the forum. I hope there will be some good advice out there for me!
I'm currently having serious thoughts about leaving my relationship with my partner. We've been together 25 years and have a child together. We aren't married. To cut a long story short, we have gone from being best friends to barely speaking.
Our relationship has been deteriorating for the last 8 years due to various life events. I have tried hard to make it work but it has been very one sided and now things are getting to the point where we barely speak. He shouts at me a lot in front of our child and things are very tense at home.
I think about leaving him often as he is emotionally very controlling and verbally abusive. There is no affection physically or emotionally. I am stuck however at the moment as I am starting a higher education course in september to train in a new profession. This will give me the independence and monetary freedom to leave him once I'm qualified.
I worry about the effect of leaving him on my son. I also worry about the effect of what he sees at home and how it will imprint on him later on in life too.
I don't know what to do, to stay or go. I'm not asking for advice on what to do but would like to find out how other people's children reacted to a separation / divorce and whether the children are better off out of a toxic relationship rather than in it.?
I feel so sad about my relationship as I did love him very much but over the years it has faded away and now there isn't much left.www.mumsnet.com/emo/te/3.gif.pagespeed.ce.ohOMRL_vp7.gif
I look forward to your replies.