AIBU talking a problem through is effective?

[starsandstripes2016]

Dd2 has anger management problems and cannot yet recognise she needs counselling. We're on tender hooks waiting for a blow. DH very distressed but will not talk to me. I've learnt not to put him under pressure. In the meantime I'm getting on with my own things whilst there's a terrible sense of foreboding hangs over the house. When she does kick off, it'll be every man for himself.

I believe talking means we can share thoughts and concerns and then be aware of each other's intentions

People deal with things differently though. Some people like to discuss matters immediately and others like to wait until they are ready. Maybe if isn't comfortable with discussing face to face you can ask him to write his thoughts down?

Would family counselling be an option to address both issues?

Thanks Blue. Tried everything. Just wondering if there is an alternative to talking! Whether I am the one with the blind spot?

Thanks Blue. Tried everything. Just wondering if there is an alternative to talking! Whether I am the one with the blind spot?

Try letters.

I've resorted to this in the past when I don't feel I'm being heard or understood and it means I don't get interrupted and can follow a logical train of thought without forgetting or getting overwhelmed.

Ask him when is he prepared to talk?

How old is DD2? It is quite rare that difficult family situations are the fault of the person everyone is blaming according to my therapist.

Family counselling with some individual counselling for all of you may help.

Ethelby - you're right. We've attempted family counselling. I'm continuing with it in order to recognise my patterns.

However, given that all the advice leads to counselling, seems this is the strategy and maybe I'm not far off the mark.