Me and my DP have just booked a holiday to Spain, we have no money saved up and not even passports sorted out. We need to come up with a £500 deposit by March. We looked into our budgets (we live seperately) and we worked out we would be able to do it (half each) but it would be tight and we would have to be careful with the money until it's paid off.
So last week he phones to let me know that he's just bought my DS a birthday present, I said "oh thanks, that's nice of you..." and he then went on to tell me what it was. £100 scalextric set (he paid £80 with staff discount). I thought this was a little excessive, especially as we are supposed to be saving for this holiday and he knows how worried I am about coming up with the deposit, I'm the only one that's paid anything on it so far. Not only that but this set is huge and I live in a tiny house and we just don't have the room for big toys like this, especially this soon after christmas not to mention the fact that they have 3 scalextric sets already that they never bother with.
But I thanked him anyway, didn't want to seem ungrateful.
Anyway yesterday he phoned me to let me know that he's put aside another present for the kids for their birthday, this time it's a £100 radio control car (which he got for £65), I was annoyed this time but again didnt want to seem ungrateful so I said "do you not think that's a bit excessive for a 5 year old? he won't look after it and despite how much it's worth it will just end up in the toybox with the rest of his toys". Apart from this the car was blatently built with teenagers in mind, not 5 year olds.
How do I tell him that whilst appretiating his presents I do really need/want him to start saving for the holiday that is booked and he also needs to buy his passport (as do I for 3 people) and considering the kids had £300 each spent on them at christmas and hardly played with any of it, the last thing they need is more big, expensive toys? Or am I just being ungrateful/mean?