husband always wants to make love when i'm tired

[22ann]

does anyone else have this problem?
i'll be fast asleep and wake up being fondled for sex, my dh says sometimes he's asleep and dosn't know he's doing it other times he appologises. it's really annoying as it's always when i'm really tired.
we make love probably once a week.

Once a week...omg you are doing loads better than me........
My dh is beginning to get restless too, although hasnt got to that stage yet. We have 3 kids, oldest 4 yrs 8 mths, youngest 15 mths, and i am always tired....I really resent Dh if he comes on to me sometimes...but we do discuss it, and he understands. What i have found works for me is knowing my cycle, the few days leading up to me ovulating and the few days after mean i am up for it tired or not, although i do still need some gentle persuasion....dosent do him any harm to have to work for it!
I think you are totally normal, but you need to be careful not to get into a rut, as your sex life does ino bring you closer as a couple. When you have kids i definetly think you need to work at it, life gets in the way. i am as guilty as the next....

Oh being woken up and pawed really pisses me off !! Actually just being woken up pisses me off - my dh has learned not to even try it ! He has 0% chance of sex if he wakes me up !!!

Would agree with that, it's worth 2 nights sleep on the sofa for him....talking to him has really helped, but also made me realise that i need to make more of an effort. been lucky really, he is v understanding (to a point)........

Sit down with him in the daytime and explain to him (nicely) that there are no circumstancs in this work under which you will 'let' him have sex with your half-asleep body just because he feels horny. Actually, if the mauling continues wit the excuse that he's doing it in his sleep, a good slap followed by a "whoops, sorry, must have done it in my sleep" might help.
However, explaining to him that if he helps you schedule some DC-free leisure time, you might rediscover your lecherous side, is probably the best way forward.

This is true madamez, made a point of talking to dh in the daytime, child free (miracle) but he seemed to deal with it better than waiting til he jumped me...rejection just puts everyones back up!
It has happened every time i have had a baby, in some repsects we both needed to be reminded we have each other too, not just the kids to consider.......major reality check!