Hi
I have been seeing a guy for 3 years. At the start it was wonderful. All my friends were envious, because he treated me amazingly and was so thoughtful and romantic. About 18 months into the relationship he changed. He started drinking a lot a the weekends and so when it came to the days I could see him (I have a young child) he was always tired when he saw me. Too tired to do anything with me, but by the time the weekend came around he had recovered his energy and was ready to drink loads with his mates again.
He stopped wanting sex. I eventually stopped initiating because it was too upsetting to be rejected. We once went 6 weeks without doing it and when I tentatively mentioned it he thought it had been about two weeks and was shocked to be told it was six!
I persevered. He used to plan holidays for us but now the only holidays he plans or goes on are stag dos.
He's put on a lot of weight. When I first met him he had an amazing body, but now is quite podgy and doesn't look how he used to. He loved going to the gym but seems to have lost that focus.
He is still very affectionate. Loves hugs and kisses. No longer seems to like passionate kisses, though.
I've dumped him about twice for the sex situation, but he always had a reason for the lack of sex and I took him back.
I realise I have only given you an outline, but to be honest there aren't that many good times recently to balance it out.
Last week we had his sister's christening of her baby and he did not talk to me the entire day. I spoke to his mum and other family members loads of times, so the excuse of it being a family celebration and he needed to mingle doesn't wash.
What should I do? I'm really heartbroken. I dumped him and he is telling me he is really upset but not making any moves to get me back.He wants to stay in constant contact, texting me several times daily just like when we were together (he has always done that, even over the last few months when he has not wanted me sexually).
I feel awful and just want to feel good again