Hurt, sad and then shouted

[MoreTeaVicar]

Me and DH had another heated debate last night. It went on and on and all sorts get dragged up and then he accuses me, as usual, of always being in the wrong, oh I cant talk to you, what is it you dont understand, do you want me to leave, etc etc. This morning I am still so sad and hurt I tell the DC I am leaving and they have to decide wether to come with me or stay . Iam so ashamed of hurting m DC like this, I just lost it big time and feel so hurt with DH, how can I make amends to DC. Have I damaged them. I feel like dyng with the hurt and shame I feel.

How old are your children?

Obviously what you said is wrong, but we all do and say things we probably shouldn't when we're upset.

Are you actually leaving?

Bear in mind that your DH has to take some responsiblity for the situation. Obviously I don't know what it is that the two of you row about, but it's in everyone's interests to try and fix the problem. Your kids are unlikely to be harmed by a one-off of you saying something dramatic especially if you explain to them that you said it because you were hurt, angry and that often makes grown ups say stupid nasty things.
However, if the rows are ongoing, then that sort of atmosphere, dragging on all the time, is not good for LOs at all.