Have (after some advice on MN) been reading into narcissism and pretty sure H fits the bill. But not entirely. I am in the process of leaving and wonder if anyone else has advice about how to do this safely - given his narc tendencies.
The thing that sets him apart is his insight into his own behaviour. he has had copious amounts of therapy and insists he is "cured". So he often says that he would never do those things again, that he understands why he did it in the past and that this means he is fixed.
Of course he isn't - the sheer fact he thinks he is perfect and that he can offer advice to me about my mental health means that he is far from fixed.
This is a follow on from other threads I have going, but i wanted to focus on your experiences of narcs - especially when leaving. What can I expect and how do I avoid being dragged back in.
Right now I think I am being ignored because I am not a consistent "supply". I am basically not responding or I am questioning. I am pretty sure he has worked out that I am of no use to him. I am guessing he wants me to leave - but can't be the one to end it as that would make him look bad.
Does this sound typical?
Don't know why I am bothered to try and work out his tactics - but it interests me. Forewarned and all that.