Facebook issues

[Numbkinnuts]

My DH and I both have FB accounts. Had mine for years , DH not so long. It's a bit of a standing joke that he refuses to have me as a friend on FB which I don't really mind. However what I do object to is he is always getting onto one of my devices or asking for my FB log in.

I have nothing to hid but it's a bit like your DH sitting next to you on a girls night out listening to your conversations. I am friends with people on FB that I have known for 30 yrs well before we met and we talk about things which don't concern him. Also it will show my messenger conversations.

I am just getting a little bit pissed off about this intrusion into my privacy when I don't ask about his.

He has no reason to think I am unfaithful - I am not BTW. How do I deal with this ?

So you have never asked why he wants it?

And you have never asked for his?

Sorry but I wouldn't have this. I have nothing to hide but I am all so entitled to privacy.

I am quite happy For dh to use my phone. I am not happy for him to go through it. It feels like him reading my journal.

I would refuse and/or ask for his right there and then. Don't give him chance to delete anything.

I am really concerned that you feel you can't say no. This isn't the only issue is it?

Oh yes, I went out with a guy once who kept saying 'there are no secrets in the relationship' and kept demanding access to my phone and laptop. F**k no, not after 2 weeks surely and not even after 20 years.
Tell him to get lost ;-)

Isn't it rather obvious that you say no, why has it taken a thread for you to suddenly realise that?

If he gets annoyed and starts being an arse, you start being an arse back.

What he is doing is effectively checking up on you and that's not acceptable.

I don't have guys I'm dating on Fb because I know I will read into things that they are doing/have done and also I don't always feel comfortable with how someone you are dating can see every detail of your past..!

However if I was in a relationship with them I would expect to be added as a friend.

No way would I hand over my password - it's very controlling behaviour at best..