Hi everyone,
I’ve only been on here for the last few weeks and this is my first forum post. I just wanted a bit of advice.
I have been in a relationship with my current boyfriend for nearly 4 years. We are happy together and he has started hinting that he would like to marry me in the not so distant future. As happy as I am, there is one thing missing in our relationship …. Sex. In the first year we were very sexual and intimate. Over the last 3 years it has totally stopped. I have tactfully mentioned this to him over the last few months and he is either “too tired”, “too stressed” or “not in the mood”. Aside from this he is very affectionate, always hugging and kissing me, always telling me he loves me etc.
I just wanted a bit of advice from others. He is the first person I have really “connected” with and I am really happy. There is just a niggling voice in my head that makes me question whether I can stay with someone long term who has no sexual urges. Another thing to mention is that we both want children and he has been discussing us trying for children in the coming weeks… which is great but I don’t just want to have sex to have a child then it stop again.
Sorry if my post is a bit all over the place, I would welcome some advice on what other people’s perspective is.