i cant make friends, , i think theres something wrong with me

[littlelostrobot]

i just have my DH for a friend and thats it.

since getting together ive lost all my friends and havent made a single one

well theres one, who somethimes comes to take my and the kids out, maybe once a fortnight, i cant drive you see.

but even though i enjoy it - i always want to ring and cancel, i get palpatations and nervous before she arrives

im constantly thinking she doesnt like me, i feel like shes looking at my figure, my clothes ect

she has more money than me, a sucessful DF, big house, nice car ect ( but i know deep down shes NOT - shes so lovely- im just paranoid)

im too scared to make friends, i feel stupid

if i go to my mums house and my sisters are there with theyre friends/boyfriends i feel stupid, awkward and i want to leave

i dont go anywhere during the day

i feel like im a freak

ps im a namechaning reg, and no, im not UCM

Now that's a sad post. Why the low self-esteem? Is this since having children or have you always felt like this?

I'm afraid I don't feel qualified to say very much. It's good that you do enjoy your friends company and she clearly enjoys seeing you and your DCs so try and relax about it. Maybe speak with your GP/ or try and find a counsellor that can help you to be more confident?

Wishing you luck with this one.

nothing to be embarassed about. i'm the same. i dont have any mates. had them, moved away, lost em! oh, we email but its nt the same as a coffee and a natter, is it?

and when you become isolated you loose confidence and then start to think theres something wrong with you (theres not) and that makes you socially anxious. then it gets more difficult for you to be relaxed - important for making friends!

do you do school run? good place to start. invite kids mates over, suggest coffee, or just chat and let things develop.

making friends is a bit like a romance. people can smell desperation! sadly, wanting to make friends very much actually is offputting! (i know, i've put of enough!)

if you live near me you can come over for coffee any time!! xx

I'm exactly the same, I lost all my friends when I got with my ex and found it impossible to make new ones. Now I have 1 friend but I'm the same as you, I always want to cancel when we've arranged to go out, it's just such a huge effort to me to be sociable but I do it for the kids, I don't want them growing up like me.

I also HATE going places when I know sisters boyfriends etc will be there, I always feel like everyone is laughing at me and taking the micky.