Why would boyfriend say Exs name?

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He has been split with her for a year but when he is drunk he talks about her.
First time was at Christmas after they had been split 4 months.
He said "Kelly looks like Megan fox in her Facebook pic"
Then started talking a bit about her.
I asked him sober and he got angry and said "don't ever say her name to me"
Then since when he is drunk he starts mentioning her..I'm getting annoyed.
Why is he doing it?
Why when drunk?
Maybe doesn't know what he is saying?

move on he won't even have an open discussion about his feelings for her which are still very strong don't play second fiddle move on

Yeah, I think he's still hung up on her too.

I think you can minimise it and write it off as being just a word, or just a name, if you like, but there is far more going on under the surface. She is in his thoughts and his heart.

If that's the case how long till he gets over her then?
Or is that like asking how long is a piece of string?
I don't want to be second or 3rd best

Yes, it's like asking how long is a piece of string.

He might never get over her.

He might meet someone, fall in love and forget she ever existed. Sadly, I don't think that's going to be you or it would have happened by now.

Sounds harsh, but please don't waste your time or your heart on someone whose thoughts are elsewhere

But that's no reflection on you. It's nothing to do with you. There is nothing you could do to make a difference to how he feels, nothing at all.

I just don't see why get with me if you still like another person.
I've been wasting my time I think

Because he's denying to himself that he's still hung up on her. He probably doesn't want to me.

Again, it might not be that he still likes her, it could simply be that he's still immensely hurt and it's common for someone to be unable to really care for someone else until that hurt has gone. Some people can do it while being with a new person, some people need time alone to find themselves as an individual again, rather than part of a relationship.

If you asked him, he'll deny it, quite angrily by the sounds of it. So this is simply your decision. If you see a future, you can try sticking it out and helping her get over him, or you can leave and allow him time to heal by himself, and you time to find someone else.

He's still hung up on her. Maybe he doesn't want to be, but he is.

I agree that it doesn't appear that this relationship is worth pursuing. Cut your losses and go your separate ways.

Some people get with a girl to get over another. Sometimes you really want to get over someone as well.

Just try not to overinvest emotionally.

For me, he kept saying her name because he was still shagging her