Dh and I were having a frank discussion and I asked him if he ever fancied other women his reply to something like that would usually be an eye roll, but this time it was a yes and then some elaboration including, "I want to fk the sht out of them"
Dh is quite a quiet man and we aren't often frank in our relationship. I really didn't expect him to say that. I dont know what I expected, maybe a more subtle response. I shouldn't have asked. My self esteem is low, Im still bfing and I generally have felt ugly my whole life. I get compliments from other men but given the choice I dont even like leaving the house because of my looks and hate the commute to work (recently returned after mat leave) due to the number of people who will see me.
Dh works abroad all the time and is always around women. He is attractive and physically very fit but unfriendly and arrogant . When we'd been together 10 years he was contacted by his ex and secretly messaging her, when I found out he said nothing happened. He used to have 2 phones with passwords, laptop and pc with passwords and wouldnt let me go near anything. I should have left him back then. Since that time the lockdown security of his devices has eased off and I thoughr it was because he realised that it was unnecessary. Following this comment im wondering if it is because whatever he was upto has now finished until the next time.
This comment has got me thinking about that and every other little thing. I'm questioning everything that I've ever doubted or suspected and let go. Every time he said I dont fancy x or y or that he'd stayed out for this and that, Im wondering if ive just been very gullible.
I cant tell if Im overreacting as I'm so upset. I have lots of problems with him and have posted about them before got the ltb responses but stayed. This hurts more than other stuff
It's been over 24 hours and im still upset. I dont know why its got to me so much.
Has anyone else had a dp say something this crass?