He wants a break....Multiples and Meds....

[MummyMaddie]

After 10years together, nearly 4 years of marriage and 3 children aged6 & twins 2.5. He says he needs to clear his head.
He's been unhappy for a long time and were not a couple anymore. He's struggling with feeling angry all the time and has zero tolerance with the children and me. He's not been physically violent to any of us, but he's not coping. He's been on antidepressants, none seem to be helping, he says he's not depressed although he shows symptoms
And he thinks it's our circumstances that make him feel so unhappy. He thinks by clearing his head we will make this better and it'll be better for the children and I might be happier. I'm also on antidepressants 😬 Had pnd and anxiety issues. I've been bad lately so that hasn't helped but I'm on an emotional rollercoaster and wondering how the children will be. They adore daddy and are so excited when he comes through the door after work.
But he says I don't do enough round the house and I take them out to much to socialise..... We're not in agreement, but I'm not sure what's best. I was distraught in tears a lot for a few days every time we had a chance to talk in the rare evenings together. (Children don't sleep well or I fall asleep putting them to bed exhausted)
And then I'm angry that he thinks it's ok to take a break, and today I'm a mixed bag but think it makes sense if he's worried about his anger etc.. I think I'm just worried this might be the beginning of the end if he goes. Has anyone been in similar situations or had a break in a marriage and made it back together so much happier afterwards?
How long do I give him? I was planning on telling the kids he was working later now and arrange a tea Time play and he can have them for a few hours whilst I go out and maybe a family day out on the weekends?? Thoughts anyone. I'm so messed up about this and being on new antidepressants myself this month I'm not
Sure what emotions are right or whether I'm responding how I should to this.... Thanks xx first time
Posting, sorry about the rant xx

Unfortunately although he's brilliant at being daddy and playing silly games when it comes to coping with them to go out etc he doesn't have alot of tolerance so get short and snappy.

Being Daddy means being able to look after your own children.

On your own.

Out of your home.

All of them.

For extended periods of time.

Anyone can play silly games.

A proper Daddy looks after you.

He is a shit Daddy.

He's an insult to Daddies who actually parent their children.

He's also a lousy husband.

Give him his break and genuinely consider your options.

He's a good babysitter, not a good father.

And he's not being a good husband by keeping you dangling, demanding you fulfill impossible tasks in order to 'win his love'.

I'd want him to commit to marriage counselling, and also for him to have all of the children for a day, so they actually get their father, and he gets to do something he demands you do all the time without a break (plus housework ffs).

Sadly, I suspect he won't do either of those things. He just wants his own selfish desires, and to be the one dipping in and out of family life as he pleases, with you grateful for any crumbs of attention.

My boyfriend of over a year keeps taking “ breaks”.. this time he says it’s because if me but from 2 months in he has gone “off” if any confrontation at all has occurred. He used to block me for sexy days and totally refuses to speak to me when hes in one of his “ moods”. We eventually came to a head after about 8 months and i said i cant take it anymore so he changed his behaviour but by then i had become very insecure about his feelings for me and that started to surface.. that has now caused us issues and ive basically told myself i need to get a grip and trust him but now he says my issues aren’t something he can put up with ( just basically worried hebwill leave at the drop of a hat and doesn’t really like me as a person because of things he said on his “breaks”) . I know overall this sounds bad but we have both never had this kind of relationship before. We are absolutely madly in love like never before ( both 36) both had precious serious relationships and have kids etc. I think my fear of losing him has pushed him away. He now says its over so i asked if I could have a chance to show him thats not the real me the same way i gave him chances. He has said ok… but im scared hes just addicted to this drama or gets bored etc. Hes met my little girl and they get on well im worried about her seeing him/her dad having came and gone I only introduced them after 8. Months because I felt very sure of the relationship. Help

Not sexy days several 😅😂😱

You've resurrected a zombie thread from 2016.