There is a big history going back with my parents so I'll try to keep it brief, my mother's mum was very emotionally abusive, she left her Husband and 5 children (including my Mother) for another man. They were bought up by their Father, my Grandad.
She kept in touch with her Mum and she remarried. He turned out to be a complete pervert and groped young girls, unfortunately my sister and I weren't exempt from his attention. We told our parents how we felt many times but they never believed us really. The relationship we have with them has been fractured ever since. It all came to a head a few years ago when this man did something to a family member and I reported him to the police. He was arrested but as no one backed us up, even with his history it went no further. He has since died. We broke contact with our parents 6 years ago, I've since had a daughter they know nothing about. They met with my sister recently but it appears they haven't changed, however Dad is remorseful, but my mother is still the same it seems. I got a letter from Dad today asking for contact. I'm just so protective of my daughter. She's my DH and my world and she doesn't need to be subjected to my Mother's manipulative ways. I wonder though what would happen if my parents passed away, would I have regret....just feeling confused 