Left out of holiday

[Norky1975]

My two closest friends, their husbands and kids are off on a two week cruise tomorrow. Me, DP and DD were not invited and I only found out about it by chance.
They both earn way more than me, have husbands (their marriages are not happy but that's another story) and I feel weird about it. I think they didn't ask us as they know I wouldn't be able to afford it, but I feel quite hurt by it all. We are all so close and such good mates. AIBU?

I do think other considerations are the husbands and all the kids involved. Some kids rub each other up the wrong way, -or the ages of their kids may be more in sync.

My DH has openly said (to me) he prefers to holiday with my DB and his family, as opposed to my Dsis and her family. That's because DB and his family like similar stuff to us and it works better.

He also gets on better with my DB, than my BIL. So the decision may not have only been down to your BFFs, but their DHs too.

I'm very close to my Dsis, but I also know if we wanted a holiday like going to Hawaii or Disney world, financially they probably could not do it and DB could.

I don't think she feels offended, I also do sister breaks with just her.

And ops "friends" seem clique. I do hold a grudge though. I'm the first to admit that.
I guess we've all got our cross to bear.
Sadly, we can't all be "perfect".

Having a bad day, dragon mother?

You are not married to these people, they can ask who the hell they like to go on holiday with. Your sense of entitlement is incredible, why can't you just be happy for them, why doese it have to be about you?

From your last couple of comments, I am now changing my mind, and beginning to think that maybe the did choose to 'leave you out'.

What on earth is there in Mother of Dragon's post to make you so snippy ?
Same with Berries You've come on the internet and asked opinions. They have been given, and you are being nasty because not everyone has said what you wanted. If you are like that in RL too, then maybe it was more of a purposeful decision to go without you, than I would otherwise have assumed.

Why "should" the OP have been asked?
Just because they are friends, why are they obliged to include the OP?
If they knew that financially, it would be a stretch, then it would actually be quite awkward if they invited her and she said it would be too much and maybe suggested somewhere more affordable, but they still wanted to go on the cruise.
It's also more than just paying for the basic cost of the holiday, there's lots of additional costs as well, and if the OP couldn't afford the same extras, it could well be very uncomfortable for everyone.
I understand why it might feel upsetting, but I don't think you should take it personally.

Is that how you interact in real life OP? If so, the explanation for your absence from a well-earned holiday that they're spending a lot of money on, is simple.

Lol at backforgood - I was just reading OP's responses and thinking "aaaah, that's why they didn't invite her!

lighthouseghost - completely agree being ostracised hurts but I don't think them doing a holiday together is ostracising the OP. They've just for whatever reason decided they want to holiday as two families. I find it odd that that would mean the end of a friendship for you.