I have been with someone for just over two years, when we first started seeing each other he was getting himself together and attending aa meetings. Now, two years later he is drinking again, still has no job and isn't actively looking, just seems content to do nothing other than go out on the money he gets in benefits - of which some I am sure he is no longer entitled to. In those two years I have retrained and have a job that fits in with my children, I am supporting myself and my dcs:) I have decided the relationship is no longer for me - I have done the right thing haven't I? I accept we all have different ideas on life and make our own choices and I respect others choices. I know it's right for me and my dcs, I am just looking for reassurance as I like the man - can't see us working long term, he has had time to get himself together and has chosen not to, I feel like such a snob