I'm Chinese. He from a small country in West Africa. My Chinese parents disapproved him SOLELY due to his skin color. My mother give me TREMENDOUS pressure, force me to chose between her and my dad, or him (my husband). When I married him my parents completely cut me off.
But I have no regrets married him. He is an awesome husband. He treats me really really well. He loves me in every possible way that he can.
And he over-protective of me, and he's corny. But I married him so I just have to adapt to his corny ways and quirks. His quirks it live-able, it not like he bully me or anything, lol
-- Eversince I married him. All I have to do is cook him dinner (he loves eat Chinese food), and help wash dishes. And be his wife.
(All he ask me for is cook him dinner so he have food to get when he comes home from work. And ask me to be his wife).
After dinner he the one that clean the kitchen; after done clean the kitchen he help with the dishes too. He finished up the dishes for me after he done clean the kitchen.
He do laundry. He do cleaning around the house, do maintenance. He do all the vacuum, mopping, sweeping, take out the trash, housework things he do.
He the one that scrub and clean the toilet bowl. Never once he let me clean the toilet or clean the bathroom. He specificly said things like clean scrub the toilet, cleaning toilet/bathroom it that is the husband job, he wants to be the one that do it.
NEVER once I have to clean the toilet/bathroom, he do it all. Heck, even buy toilet paper is he bought.
---- He won't let me do laundry, in our house he is the one that do laundry. He said he 'wants' to do our laundry; not just his only but do mine and his together.
He said he doesn't want to see his "wife" carry heavy laundry, and said doing laundry is his jobthe husband job.. He make the bed, washing bed sheets comforters blankets. He wash our clotheshe do laundry loads, washing and drying. And he sort and fold the clean clothes put it in the baskets, and carry it to the bedroom for me.
He so neat.. He sort and fold our laundry. When done washing drying. He sort, fold the clean clothes into the baskets. Heck, even my bra and underwear, and socks he still sort and fold.
And he carry the baskets to the bedroom for me.. He said he just wants his 'wife' to help put clothes in the drawers, and hang it up in the closet; and help iron some clothes if needed.
When it laundry days, he always make sure he have laundry done for me before he go to work. For example, today he work; yesterday he will get laundry all done, or early in the morning he will get the laundry all done.. He won't let me carry heavy laundry. After he get laundry all done, he always carry the clean laundry baskets to the bedroom for me.
------ He always carry everything for me. He doesn't let me carried a bag of grocery, or carried laundry. He just won't let me carried anything heavy, at all.
Everything on the kitchen shelves, he purposely put it all within my petite height reach. I'm 4'11" (4 feet 11 inches) , sorry I'm in USA so I use U.S measurement feet and inches.
He doesn't want to see me climb on a tall chair to change the dead lightbulb on top of the ceiling, he thinks I'm gonna fall.. He said If the ceiling lightbulb dead when he not home, use the table Lamp instead; and wait he get home from work, and he'll change it for me.
He make it clear he doesn't want to see his 'wife' climb on tall chair--to change the light bulb on top of the ceiling, or for whatever reason.
He always been protective like this, from acquaintance to friends to dating to married; he always help me carried my supermarket bags, carried my laundry, help fix my car, help me change the lightbulb, etc..
He said he wants to be the one that carry my grocery bags, be the one that change the lightbulb for me.
Perhaps he over-protective of me, but as long as he around, he carry everything for me. He carry everything, like everything. All I need to carry is my purse, lol
--- I love love the Denim jeans at Express in the mall. But the price is pricey it $85 a pair, (it probably not alot to others; but to a girl like me who work minimum wage jobs all my life, $85 for a pair of jeans is pricey). Sorry, I'm in USA so I use $ in USD.
Last time we went to the mall, he generously bought me five pairs of Demin jeans at Express, (I only want one pair but he bought me five). I guess he knows how much I love those jeans, so he bought me 5 pairs.
Everytime whenever we go shopping. He said buy clothes buy shoe, buy whatever I like; and he just pay.. He said he wants 'me' to chose. He thinks it best that I chose. Because if he chose, he doesn't know if I like the style or if I like the color. So he said I grab whatever I want, and he pays.
He knows I'm frugal, I guess he knows if he doesn't buy it for me I won't buy it for myself.. I'm grateful that he is generous, but I don't want to go to the mall with him anymore. I know he generous with his money but still, I don't like to see him spend money like that. He work hard for his paychecks, it doesn't fall down from the sky.
Well, two weeks ago he was able to get me to go to the mall, lol
I saw a pair of shoe I really like but it pricey. I said when it go on sale price I will buy it. He said No, he said he buy it for me regular price.
He end up bought me 5 pairs of shoes. Well, to be exact: it 2 pairs of shoes, 1 pair of ankle boots, 1 pair of high heels and 1 pair of sandals.
It me that choose all the 5 pairs, he let me freely chose it because he doesn't know what style I like, or whether if the shoe is comfy when I wear it or not. So he lets me chose, and he just pays.
He really generous.
I use this Foam cleanser face wash, it cost $55 a tube--it a Japan brand and it come in a small size tube, (I thought it pricey consider the tube size; but it a must buy item, no way I'm using a different brand).
Everytime my husband see my facewash almost run out, he always bought 2 new tubes for me. I get endless facewash supply from him, lol
A month ago, he saw I only have 1/3 of the tube left, so he bought 2 new ones for me.
I am very frugal, I always buy things on sale price and on Clearance price. But he said No. He said he make enough money to buy me things regular price. So let him buy it for me.
I told him it waste of money, but he said it not because he bought it for me--his 'wife'. He doesn't think it waste of money when what he bought is bought for his 'wife'.
-- He make the best potato salad, and stuffing. It something in the taste of his food that it taste sooo good, (I ate countless of potato salad and stuffing. And none can match up to the taste of his).
He very nice to me. Last time while eating dinner, I told him suddenly I have craving for his potato salad--it was just a random sentence I said while eating on the dinner table.. Because of this one sentence I said; after he finished his plate of dinner, he went straight to the kitchen and make the potato salad for me.
He didn't even hesitate for a second, after he finished is plate of Chinese food, he went straight to the kitchen and make the potato salad I said I was craving for.
He said he make it anytime for me. He said if I like to eat the food he make, he will make it everyday for me.
He make the best BBQ Beef Brisket (southern style), he make it the best!
There times when I have craving for his BBQ Beef Brisket, lol.. But I know Beef brisket it not the same as potato salad, it take hours and hours to cook for the beef to tender. So if I can't shut down my craving and 'must' eat it, I wait till the weekend when he have half a day off from work then ask if he can make it for me, he never say No.
He work 12-14 hours a day just so I can live a comfy life without have to worried about money.
I can't be unreasonable. So when I want to eat his Beef brisket, I wait till the weekend when he work less hours, and he will make it for me. He never hesitate. He said he very happy that his wife likes to eat the food he make.
---- Well, this is an embarrassing one, lol
My husband he likes to kiss my butt cheek whenever we in bed together. Clothed or not, underwear or short on, he still like to kiss my butt cheek. He do it every chance he gets, lol
I have the bad habit of sleeping on my stomach. And I lay in bed on my stomach sometimes playing on my laptop/phone. Or just lay in bed on my stomach.. Whenever he see me lay on my stomach, he would kiss my butt cheek. Or simply as when he walk in the bedroom and see me laying flat on my stomach.
To me it just sooo awkward! I told him it embarrassing. But he said he have nothing to be embarrassed about that he kiss his "wife" butt cheek, that his reasoning.
We got married 18 months ago, and he still do what he do.
He still give me the reasoning that he have nothing to be embarrassed about that he kiss his 'wife' butt cheek.. I just dunno how to response back to him when he give a reasoning like that.
He very respectful. He doesn't bite, doesn't slap, doesn't gropes, doesn't spank my butt, not even a light spank.
He just simply put his lips on my butt cheek and kiss it, a gentle slow kiss type.
...when I get dress, sometimes I look at my butt in the mirror and I keep wondering why he likes to kiss it? Is there something wrong with my butt? lol
It random kisses, he do it randomly. When he around don't let him see my butt, or else I know exactly what he gonna do, lol
ugh.. at our age we not young anymore; I'm 31 and he 30, it kindda embarrassing.
But I know this is his way of show affection. So I do try to adapt to "his" way of affection, I let him do it.. I giggles. I giggles and sometimes give him a hug. He was sooo happy that I enjoy it and that I appreciate his kiss.
---- In the cold winter time; my hands and feet get freezing, like very very cold.. He know this, so he rubs my feet and hands; when we in bed-he always rubs my hands and rubs my feet.
We did tried to turn on heater; but when the heater stays on, after a while I get bleeding nose.. He knows this so he doesn't want to leave the heater on, I guess because he doesn't want to see my nose bleeds. He keeps rubs my hands and rubs my feet to helps keep it stay warm.
When my hands and feet get cold again, he rubs my hands and feet again. He said he doesn't want to leave the heater on long, because he knows the heater gives me nosebleed.
ugh.. he kiss the top of my foot too, my foot dorsal. And last winter he bought me those really soft fluffy slippers so I can wear walking around on the carpet at home, in the winter time my feet get cold even walking on the carpet.. And he bought me those thick warm socks to wear in bed when sleep.
--- I have a habit of leave random things all over the bedroom carpet, usually like 5-6 things laying on the bedroom carpet.
My husband knows this, so when he walk in the bedroom, he walk in carefully. (I guess she doesn't want to accidently step on it). And he always pick the stuff up and put it back into place for me.. Never once he criticize me, he just quietly pick it all up and put it back in place for me.
I have try to not leave stuff all over the carpet anymore. It getting better, but habits died hard. ugh.. like right now I have a box of tissue on the carpet floor, and my phone charger.
Never once he said anything about my habits. But I know he is a neat-freak and a clean-freak.. I told him I'm going to try to not leave things on the carpet anymore. He said I'm silly, he said don't sweat about it, he doesn't mind pick it all up for me. He said I leave things on the carpet, he will pick it up. He doesn't see what is the problem?
--- He very protectove of me.
I can be quite clumsy, not all the time but sometimes.
Last time I accidently dropped soda cans, and it exploded all over the kitchen.. Being multi-tasking that I am, I try carried
4 Coca-Cola cans in one hand. I dropped all 4 cans, it exploded. It spills, fizz and splashed all over the kitchen floor.
He didn't get mad, he said let him clean it up. He doesn't want me to slip and fall, so he said I go watch TV in the living room, and he clean up the kitchen.
Another example of my clumsy habit.
Last time I dropped a big glass cup in the kitchen. The glass break into many pieces big and small, and the tiny pieces glass shattered all over the kitchen floor.
He didn't get mad, he said he does Not want me to touch the broken glass pieces. Because he worried that the broken glass pieces might cut my finger if I pick it up; so I let him pick it up and clean it all up.
ugh.. the broken glass pieces sure does look sharp, but he use his fingers to pick it up. Since the broken glass pieces shattered all over the kitchen floor, it was a mess. But he won't let me help him, he wants to be the one that pick it up and clean it up.
---- He worries and secure everything from emotionally to financially; everything I have right now is he gives me. Because of him I get to live stable steady and comfy life.
He work 12-14 hours a day, just so I can have a comfy life, so I can live a comfy life without have to worried about money.
We in California, USA. And California it High cost of living, everything here is freaking expensive.
Here every household there got to be one person who work their butt off just so their wife and kids can have a comfy life.. But I miss my husband, I wish he didn't have to work that longgg hours, but in order to live a comfy life, work longgg hours is just how it is in California.
Eventhough he secure everything already, from emotionally to financially. He pays Rent, he pays ALL the bills. Everything I have right now is he gives me.
But he still want to see me well taken care of. He gives me money everytime he gets pay.
He gets pay 6 times a month. His full time job pays weekly. And his part time job pay bi-weekly. And everytime he gets pay, he give me money. He put cash money in my hand, he said it mine, my 'spending money'. Spend it on whatever I want, buy whatever I want/need.
But I don't need anything, because he already give me everything. Everything I have right now is he gives me. Pretty clothes and shoe I wear is he bought for me. The fridge is full of meat, too much food in our house, it all he bought. All the things in our house, to all the bills he pays. Everything is he pays.
I don't see why he needs to give me money, but he still do.
I told him I put all the cash money he give me into a saving account, I open a saving account just to put in the cash money he gives me in there only. When we have a baby, we use it for baby expense, or save it for baby-college.
Welp, it getting super long, lol.. But I feel very blessed to have him as my husband. Despite my Chinese parents competely cut me off after I got married. But I have no regrets married him, no regrets this life time.