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Anyone else been ghosted?

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amypie86 · 03/08/2016 10:40

Back in June I posted about how my boyfriend just suddenly stopped speaking to me on my birthday. No reason given, he just never spoke to me again after telling me how in love he was a matter of days before. No warning signs, nothing. He had taken me to meet his mum and acted like I was the best thing since sliced bread.

Anyway, I'm over the initial upset but I still find myself thinking about it ALL the time. People said he couldn't have been in love with me so quickly (he said it after a week) and we were seeing eachother for just two months in total, but I was genuinely in love with him. I honestly wanted to spend my life with him.

Now I just can't stop thinking about how much he hurt me, and how I can't have ever known the real him. It's really affected me because I feel like I can't trust anyone now, I believed he was the most trustworthy person I'd dated so far and he turned out to be the least.

I've been talking to guys on tinder, I met him on tinder too but I just don't feel like I get a connection with any of them compared to what it was like with him. None of it could have been real could it? Or he wouldn't have fucked off.

I don't really know why I'm posting this but I just can't seem to get my head around what happened. In the past I've been really upset over breakups but I've got over it reasonably quick, this time I feel like it's really messed with my head because I was never given a reason, I wasn't even told it was over, he just disappeared.

Has anyone else been really screwed over by being ghosted?

OP posts:
amypie86 · 06/08/2016 23:51

I'd like to think he does know what a shit thing he's done but I can't imagine he cares very much, or he wouldn't have done it. I may have only known him a few weeks but honestly everything just felt right with him. When someone is telling you they feel exactly the same way it's hard not to let your guard down and fall hard. After all I didn't think for a moment that people bullshit you about that kind of thing, especially when it was him saying everything first!

You're right that it hurts more and in a different way to when long term relationships end, it literally makes you feel completely worthless and I can tell it will affect me for a long time. I feel really disconnected from people and don't trust a word people say now.

We will get through it though :) thanks for your reply it helps.

OP posts:
winkywinkola · 07/08/2016 20:21

He doesn't care. I'm sorry op.

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