Snappy!

[snapyap]

DH is snappy a lot. If I ask him to do something with our toddler DS, if I ask him what he wants for tea, where we should go out with DS. Especially if I interrupt him on his laptop or phone. This is translating into a snappiness/impatience with toddler.

I don't know how to broach it without him getting snappy again!

To me it feels like he is pleased he married his first girlfriend and that's what mattered. Irrelevant whether we are happy or not

So you really do not count in this marriage then.

What are your intentions going forward, do you want to stay in this marriage?. I tell you now he is not going to change, he has this how he wants it and will not give up any of the power and control in this relationship to you.

Aargh I really don't want it to end. I will have a proper go at talking to him reasonably, I'm sure it can be solved

This cannot be solved, well not without his co-operation and I doubt very much he will at all co-operate. This current state of affairs suits him so you are really flogging a dead horse. You will always be reasonable, he will never be this.

You have not been able to talk to him readily about this either because you are also afraid of his reaction.