Sorry it's long, need to get it out. I posted in chat but didn't know how to get it moved here so copies and pasted. I've been with DP for just over 3 years, he has 2 children from a previous relationship who are 7 and 5, but as soon as his ex found out about our relationship she stopped contact, he fought for almost 3 years to see them and in the end there was a court order made in March and they moved in with us. Their mother is now in prison and hasn't had any contact since they were moved (social services choice). We have 2 children of our own too, they're 2 and 7 months. DP was lovely when we first got together, I couldn't have wished for anyone better but the last few months he's just been vile. I feel like he wanted to play happy families all this time to make it look good for social services etc so he could get custody of the kids and now that they're here he isn't interested anymore, he doesn't come near me unless I initiate it, doesn't want a conversation, he's self employed and works all day so I've got the 4 kids all day every day which isn't a problem cos he needs to work but as soon as he gets home it's " I'm just gonna wash my van and do this that the other now before I come in" which pisses me off no end, surely when he comes home he should come in and take over for a bit or at least say "hi how's your day been, let's have a cuppa and a chat" etc and spend some time with his kids. Even when he has a day off, like today for instance, there's always a list of things "he" needs to do and pisses off out for the majority of the day. I don't see any of the money he earns apart from the odd had and electric he will put in, he reckons it goes in stock, diesel, equipment etc, he doesn't contribute to the house. He speaks to me like shit ( in front of the kids too, how will they ever have respect for me if he doesn't?) and he never EVER admits he's wrong for anything. I've just had enough, I love him to pieces and really don't want to split up but I just don't know how much longer I can live like this, I don't even know what I love anymore, I think I'm just hanging on to the old him but he ain't ever coming back. Also I've created a bond with the girls and don't want them to have to be uprooted again just as they've settled in, after everything they've been through. But I'm fed up of feeling like all he wants to be with me for is to have someone to look after his children while he's out and about all day. DS1 thinks the sun shines out of his arse, all I hear all day is "dad, dad, dad" which pisses me off cos he doesn't even bother with him, he deserves more. He reckons he loves me, but he wouldn't treat me like this if he did.