have i done the right thing help

[alles]

i have just kicked my husbend out as i have just found out that he has not paid the rent again this the 3rd time this has happend and he has not paid any of the council tax he has the money but just has not paid it we have two small kids these where the only things that he had to pay for i pay for all the other bill and all he could say was that he did not think that it was that much not where the money has gone i think that it has all gone on sex chat rooms as he has not come to bed for to weeks i just feel like my hole world has just crashed down on me what do i do

alles

go through his personal stuff and find out where the money has gone for sure,if hes not prepared to tell the truth.if your suspicions are right,then decide what you want to do.

he has put his bank statment some where and i can not find them they are not in the house

is there a reason you think hes been using sex chat rooms?can you look on the pc history to find out?

no he has a password locking it and he has done it before i just do not know how i am going to get out of this mess

what do you mean 'this mess'?are you talking about the financial side of things or the relationship side?

if you've decided the marriage is over then you can sort out finances etc monday,go to citizens advice etc.

or is it likely he will come back and try to apologise/make excuses?
is he generally a good husband/father in other ways and this is the only bad thing or is he a complete d**k head??

to me he is a dick head gut he is a good dad i just do not know if i can do this on my own i love him so much but he has put me thought hell i moved from dorset to yorkshire so he could follow his dreams and left everyone i know and he dose this to me we have not even been here a year i just do not know if i can do it

i dont know what else to suggest,if you still love him then i'm sure you will end up forgiving him this time.

i went through similar with my ex-h,i found out he'd been watching porn on sky when i was in bed...and using my bank account to pay for it.we were on benefits and he got us into loads of debt.he would deny everything,make excuses etc,but one day i woke up and realised that i had no feelings for him any more cos he'd treated me like a piece of crap and i deserved better.i threw him out and havent seen him since,thankfully.

do you have anybody you can talk to?like a councellor or anything?or your health visitor if oyur children are still small?
it sound like you are quite isolated and that may be adding to the feeling of 'needing' him.

thank you i need to work out what is best for my kids not what i need thank you again have to go one of my boys has got up thank you again

whats best for kids is to live in a relaxed,happy environment where they learn how to love and respect others.IMO a good dad is also a good partner/husband as children learn by example.

Don't use your children as an excuse to avoid the stress of leaving him. If he is a good dad he will carry on being a good dad even if you are not living together. If he is not a good dad then it's better they don't grow up to learn that his bad habits are what Dads Do. And frankly, Good Dads don't risk their children's homes by squandering the rent on sex chat rooms.