So my husband told me 6 weeks ago that he wanted to separate. The back story is in my other threads but he's had several affairs, first one over five years ago, and we had gotten back together.
He says that our relationship will never be the same and is fed up with me not trusting him and rolling my eyes and making faces if shows about infidelity/marriage come on TV.
He has been sleeping at his aunt's house but, bar the time he is in work, he has been at our home as normal. We had a week off work a few weeks ago and he wanted to do stuff as a 'family'.
He slept here (and with me) at least once a week too.
I felt this could not go on (for my own mental health), so I asked him to take a week and think about wether he truly wanted to separate or not.
Last night I asked for an answer and he said yes he still wanted to go. Said he loved me but our relationship was ruined by his affairs and there was no going back.
I asked him to not come to our home anymore and when he asked when he could see our four DC I told him Friday when I go to work.
I now feel really bad. I need the space to heal and realise this is what's happening but don't want to use my DC as pawns.