DH on eharmony?

[WatchMeSoar]

I think my dh is on eharmony. Does anyone know how to search without joining? Its in another country and every time I search using a post code from that city its coming up invalid.
Any ideas?
Thanks.

Thanks kitty, the URL said eharmony, but I don't have any access to his phone,

I think we weill have a chat!

Thanks gosh

I am almost sure that eHarmony does not randomly spam people.

At the very least, he has been on the site browsing, signing up, or creating a profile.

Watch that's what I was trying to say, definitely check the email address that it was sent from by copying and pasting it into a Google search also usually the spelling in phishing emails is a dead giveaway.

2nd
OK, will try tomorrow, need to sleep now

Thanks for the good advice.

Koala

That's what I think.

If you're getting a blank screen, or something that asks you to click to see the content, then it's just spam.

Lelly, that doesn't always follow. I occasionally get a blank screen because the email hasn't loaded properly.

As online dating sites go, eH is pretty legit. They really don't spam people who have never been to their site.

I think the 'how to get started" email sounds pretty conclusive TBH. He may not have used your town of course in his profile, possibly another town reasonably nearby - could you search by age assuming up to 6 years younger than he is, not need to go older :) and county?

When I found my exH on Lovestruck it was fairly easy to search by age band. He hadn't put a photo of himself on, but I knew he had to be one of two or three profiles so I created a fake profile and messaged them in a way which I know would appeal to him. Bingo, he replied straight away with a photo.

If you're getting a blank screen, or something that asks you to click to see the content, then it's just spam.

This is not correct - images often don't load by default in emails, including legitimate emails sent by businesses, and they will often appear blank if there's a large image at the top. You then have to click a button to display images.

It doesn't mean he's definitely using eharmony, but the blank space at the top absolutely does not mean it's spam.

improvising, what a rat.

Hope there's an innocent explanation but sounds like there's more to it than just the email

Just an example of what I get. There are plenty of single women in my area looking for me. I'll have to tell my husband

Yes you are right, I don't trust him, there is more to this.
However, I was looking for some advice on this one thing, I really don't want to lay out every crap thing about my relationship.
I hope you understand

Yes, I absolutely do understand OP, that's totally your right. I was just wondering if the suspicion about eharmony was literally just based on seeing the emails, or if there was more to it.

I'd be inclined to investigate further without telling him to avoid lies and destroying of evidence.

If there is other shite going on then I would not focus on this email. If you don't trust him and you are unhappy that is reason enough to get rid without evidence.

Some good advice thanks for taking the time to post.
In the end I couldn't keep my mouth shut and confronted him
He said it was spam but when he opened one of the emails he had unsubscribed.
I looked in the t and c's and it said he had received this email from eharmony because he had clicked to receive emails from this company.

This was his last chance and he's fucked it.
I'm OK.

Thanks again,
I wouldn't tell anyone in RL.

I legitimately joined match.com, zoosk etc when I was dating and never received emails (Spam) from them prior to signing up. Only after I had entered all my details did i receive mail from them.

I also tried to join eHarmony and wasn't allowed to join as I was only separated and not officially divorced at the time, and eHarmony was marketed as people wanting 'Relationships' rather than flings etc....not that this matters.

Whatever his reasons, the signs aren't great. Hope it all works out for you.

You're welcome Watchmesoar,
I personally don't believe in all this infringement stuff people throw at you when you're safeguarding something critical - your heart. It may be false alarm but you're better finding out secretly before confrontation. A good spouse if guilty will make amends and will never try it again.