FedupofbeingtoldIcantusemyname ·
22/07/2016 13:59
ExDp and I have broken up, fairly recently. Things have been difficult and I'm struggling to get over it. So I'm going to write a list of all (or most) of the negative things about him/that he did/does to try and remind myself a) why we are not together anymore and b) to stop myself from trying to get back with him. Maybe also to remind myself that I deserve better. So here goes:
He is obsessed with cars. Literally has no other interests.
Expected me to be really really into cars too (I'm not, they're boring and confusing to me).
Took no interest in anything I was into. Would outright tell me he didn't care or wasn't interested if I tried talking about something I enjoyed.
Workaholic.
Really tight fisted with money. His idea of a romantic date was KFC or Wetherspoons. If we did go anywhere pricier he would complain that he could get the same thing cheaper elsewhere and grumble.
Boring. He never wanted to go out or do anything because he was either tired from working so much or just couldn't be arsed.
Emotionally monotone. Never really got happy or angry, or at least he never showed it. Refused to open up to me and talk about his feelings.
Very critical. About everything.
Blamed me for everything, silly things like moving something he had put on the table. Everything wrong was always because I had done something, never him.
Joked about me in front of his friends/family.
Generally grumpy and negative.
Expected me to do all the housework because he worked full time and I only work part time (I'm also a full time student).
Left random car parts all over the house and expected me to tidy up after him. But of course he got annoyed if I moved anything because then he couldn't find it.
Was not supportive of either my hobbies or studying.
Very rarely ever put himself out for me unless it was to fix my vehicle or give me a lift somewhere.
Would chat to other women about his problems/feelings but not to me.
Really really hurt me on/around my birthday (emotionally).
Made almost no effort around birthdays/Christmas. Any presents I did get were chosen by other people and just paid for by him. He felt that because he didn't like/didn't celebrate either of those occasions that he shouldn't really be expected to do it for me.
Broke up with me but still seems to expect me to be up for sex.
Broke up with me but still seems to expect me to cook and do the chores for him like I did before.
There's probably more but I can't think of any others right now. Sorry it's so long I just need to get it all out.