are you lovey dovey with your dp/dh/dw?

[baldrick]

okay you're married, you're with each other each and every day but do you write each other soppy love poems, declare undying love regularly...are you soppy over each other (is romance dead??)...am a bit cr---- with dh but long for this but need to make more effort)....do smug marrieds get soppy??? (BJD quote btw)

it's too late or noone is??

Hi Baldrick, yes, its late, no romance is not dead. Each to their own, married 16 years this year still say 'I love you' every day and kiss when ever wherever..

Hi Baldrick. I was just thinking about this, this week, as I realized that I never kiss DH goodbye or hello when he comes home from work. I think it would be nice to get into the habit, but don't know how to start even this little show of affection.

I have been with my DH for nearly 10 years and still get excited about him coming home from work or where ever he has been. We are not soppy with each other as such but there are still deep feelings of love. I think it is very important to maintain that level of affection and contact with someone.

We always kiss and say 'I love you' when DH goes to work ... and I always tell him I love him when I speak to him on the phone.
I am a bit funny about it really ... I hate the thought of something happening and I didn't tell him I loved him ... or having an argument just before he gets in the car to go on the motorway ... if something happened and I didn't tell him I loved him I would never forgive myself. I am like that with my family too ... I always tell them I love them ... to me it is important ...
If I have had a bit to drink I love everyone ...
Apart from that we are not soppy or that romantic really ... I wish he was a more 'hearts and flowers' type ... but he shows me he loves me in other ways ... like, cooking for me and letting me have lie ins on Weekends etc etc ...

DH and I aren't lovey dovey, in that we don't make a deal of kissing goodbye (unless one of us is going away for a couple of days) etc but much to my surprise I came home on Saturday after being out all day with DS1 to find that DH had written the most amazing song for me. He plays the guitar and had been working on a tune when I left and I think I had mentioned that I liked it and when I came back he had written beautiful lyrics to go with it. I was in tears reading them. The only problem is he can't sing to save himself to I have to imagine how they should sound sung. Coming up for having been married nine years and he sent me 18 white roses on our wedding anniversary last year (first time he has sent me flowers since before we were married so I was really blown away by that too).

tears in my eyes too, romance in not dead then

We used to be incredibly romantic - at Christmas we didn't buy presents but wrote each other a story to read at midnight on Christmas Eve and all sorts of other things. We've not had much time for those things since dd was born 20 months ago but we're still very very fond and affectionate. And I ALWAYS look forward to seeing him and HATE it when he has to go away. Like Ghosty I also have a slight phobia about something happening (lost my father very suddenly and have felt like that since) to him so I always want us to part from each other with love spoken in some way or another. I'm also a total baby when we've had a row, I walk round like a condemned woman until it's resolved. If things aren't right with him it feels like everythng else is wrong.

When DH and I first got together we used to send each other emails during the day about how much we were looking forward to seeing each other etc. Now I get emails saying things "like Has DS1 done any poos today" "Did you manage to clean up the sick?" Romance definitely not dead in our relationship!

strangerthanfiction ... I am like that too when DH and I have a row ... I can't get on with anything until we have made up ...

no its not dead.......admittedly we don't have anywhere near as much time together having 3 kids under 4 and a half, and have definately had some rough patches, but we are still SOOOOOOOOO in love. I get flowers and chocolates on a regular basis and little 'i love you' notes left for me for when I get up in the morning (DH goes to work really early) and he always gives me a kiss and tells me he loves me before he leaves and brings me tea and toast in bed. I always buy him those lovey dovey cards and write my own soppy poems in them, and he always leaves them on show for everyone to see. We are always kissing and cuddling much to the kids' disgust!! He often cooks dinner for me and runs me lovely long bubble baths with loads of candles in the room. He is a darling and will do anything and everything around the house and with the children as well bless him. I love him so much and can't and don't want to imagine my life without him. Sorry, was that too much!?!? I got a bit carried away!!!

How old are your children busybee123? Just curious!

ChicPea ds1 is 4 and a half, dd is 2 and a half and ds2 is 16 weeks

flowers and chocolates??!! pah!

we tell each other we love each other every day I suppose, but he is not as romantice as he used to be. He used to open doors for me, the lot. Now he gets regular sex so I suppose its not as important After 9 years together and having gone through the mill more than once (seems like always) we are stronger as a partnership but not lovey dovey. I also think when you are short of money you cant afford to keep buying gifts for one another, and thats not what love is anyway IMO

no its not dead at all!!

we've been together for (pause to calculate)15 years, and I do occasionally still get flowers. Not as often as it used to be but a nice surprise anyway.

we also make an effort to go out on romantic dinners once in while, or sometimes I just cook soemthing nice and we'll have a nice wine and lay the table properly and have a nice evening on our own.