Im going to have an affair.

[Tyedye]

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Hope it goes well for you.
Please be very careful, and meet somewhere public, letting a friend know where you are.

I have affairs all the time.

Right now I'm having one with Miko who sings Grace Kelly.

good luck tyedye i hope it goes well

Fuck me I wish I could meet someone nice AND avaliable and leave fuckfeatures !

LOL Expat, are you over your temptation?

rhuby i saw a brief glimpse of him on telly today, i need a closer exam but he looked quite hot to me

"i met him online actually,meeting him in the flesh tomorrow! "

Eh??

Don't rush into anything will you? You have probably fallen in live with a fantasy - just make sure the reality live up to it.

You are in a very vulnerable position, so be careful and protect your kids

Be CAREFUL !!!!

Please !!!

My bf did just this - although actually her situation was BETTER as she knew the bloke from school - and he turned into a mad loon stalker - has made her life a living hell !!

Meet him by all means - but I would not jump into anything until you really really know him !

Just seen this, Tyedye!
I am glad you are now taking serious steps to escape from your abusive partner - you deserve so much better.
I am pleased to hear you have met someone who seems nice - but please be careful won't you?

He is hot lou! I've shagged him loads!

Tyedye - do play it safe. I'm sure you don't need us telling you about internet frauds, esp me as I'd get all potential new partners CRB checked before they came anywhere near my kids! But do as others have said and take it slowly, meet in a public place and don't introduce him to your kids until you are sure. The worst thing you can do to kids is introduce them to a potential partner, let them get used to it, even hopeful that they might have a new 'dad' and then for that relationship to fall apart and this man who they have bonded with walks out of their lives never to return.

I take it you met this chap on a dating site, am I correct here?
Please, please be careful won't you, Tyedye?
Where are you meeting him?

Okay.

right - the leaving DP bit sounds great. but this jumping straight into a relationship (and with someone you have never met face to face) erm really doesn't sound so great.

when did you come back mummyrtosteven

yesterday beetroot

where have you been?

Tidy, I?ve read your threads and I am glad to hear that you have decided to get out of the situation you are in. but ?

Planning to start out with someone you?ve never actually met is a very unwise thing to do IMO. Firstly there is the safety aspect, people can be whoever they want to be on the internet, he?s supportive because it?s easy to type out the things that he knows you want to hear. And words are extremely powerful. You are in love with the fantacy that he has portrayed to you over the internet/the phone, but you haven?t met him yet, you can?t know for certain that he is right for you, that the physical attraction will be there. Please be careful.

erm www.badmothersclub.com Beetroot . I felt a bit of a break from here would do me good.

oh and happy birthday!

they arent all nutters online you know

so are you back for good or jsut popping in/

I cannot get used to BMC - have tried

no of course not lou - I mean we're all online and we're not all nutters.

my point isn't so much that this guy could be a nutter, but it's very very easy to be swept away in the whole idea of the internet romance. Guy appears nice, says the things you want to hear, is supportive, but in reality you can have no idea what an actual, physical, relationship will be like until you have met in person, and therefore saying that you are leaving your partner and going to be with someone else that you've never actually met isn't wise.

He might be the loveliest man in the world on paper, he might have the loveliest personality, but you cannot possibly know that you will be physically attracted to someone you've never met.

oh no we all are, i was talking about men!

i met my current squeeze online, shockingly after only about 10 days and he's great

i wasnt even looking for anyone either

oh I have no doubt that lots of people have met online and have great relationships.

but i also know lots who have done the whole relationship thing for months, I even know someone who announced her engagement to someone she'd never actually met in person, and when they met it turned that things weren't as rosy in reality as in syber space.

I am a little concerned that Tyedye is meeting up with this guy before she separates from her partner, because hearing about how controlling & abusive he can be, I would worry how he would react if he got the slightest suspition that she had met up with another man.

well getting engaged to someone you havent met is just plain stupid, but tyedye sounds sensible enough

i find more nutters exist irl than online for me lol

WE are all nutters! Didn't you see Moondogs thread?