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'I hope you die'

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Lottielou7 · 17/07/2016 21:53

I've been involved with a guy, on and off for about 2 years. He's a manipulative, abusive bastard. I was infatuated with him. Finally I have in the last few months felt that I have lost any feelings for him but he keeps on contacting me still. So I sent him a message telling him I never want to see him again and he's treated me like crap by standing me up and giving me chlamydia as well as lying that he loves me. I feel so much better telling him to F off. His response was 'I hope you die'

Should I be worried that this is a threat or just forget all about it?

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Lottielou7 · 18/07/2016 20:41

How 'normal' is it for people to say things like this though? I didn't think anyone wished other people dead.

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Lottielou7 · 18/07/2016 20:42

I've always suspected he might be a narc/p is this what narcissistic rage is?

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amarmai · 18/07/2016 23:55

Not normal , nor are the other actions you told us about. He is a woman hater and you need to stay clear of him. What he says and does is not specific to you . He will do the same to whatever woman he gets control of. He is telling you who he is and I think you know that.Be safe and be happy.

princessmi12 · 19/07/2016 13:07

its not normal and he's not normal
Oh god spitting down your throat? sorry but you have serious issues and no boundaries at all if you allowed it.
Don't worry about him,block him everywhere and imagine you delete memory of him in your head as if he doesn't exist.

Vagabond · 19/07/2016 15:50

I'd say don't poke the hornet's nest. Ignore ignore. If you have to reply, tell him you're going to stay with your mum/Australia/the Ice Pole for the next few months. Anything to keep him away from you and your home.

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Lottielou7 · 19/07/2016 21:52

I have AS so yes I do have issues with boundaries. I tend to freeze, I tend not to know how to act appropriately when someone does something wrong. I did tell him it was a disgusting thing to do though.

Apparently women haters get a hit from hurting women over and over again. It's finally clicked and I certainly won't ever speak to him again.

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princessmi12 · 19/07/2016 23:17

Not speaking to him is not enough
Be alert to recognise red signs he shown in other people ,to cut them off and not get yourself in deja vu situation

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Lottielou7 · 19/07/2016 23:32

Yes I am working on it. if I get involved with anyone again I will know what the red flags are.

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