My partner doesn't like me.

[Jessicapeek]

Hello, I'm 24 and I have been with my partner for 4 years and we are engaged. We have two young children, 2 and 8months. I am currently on medication for post natal depression. As a person I am really loving, affectionate and caring. My partner however is not. He has slowly stopped showing me any kind of affection unless it's sex. I love him so much but he doesn't kiss me, hug me or touch me unless it's for sex and I feel so unloved, for me I can't just have sex, I need some intamcy and love, that's what it's based on for me. I have to feel connected and lately I don't so our sex life has really took a back seat. I have told him how I feel and he's still not making a effort, I feel like he is forced to show me any kind of affection. I do it because I love him and there's no question about it. It's a natural feeling for me but it's not for him. I feel so unwanted and it's causing so many arguments. I don't know what to do anymore I just feel like he doesn't like me and it really upsets me.

There's no such thing as love. There's the initial attraction and the excitement that goes with it for a while and al the endorphins that creates.
After that wears off then there's the period you're both going through now which is the doubt and resentment of whether you can remain together for a long period of time.
After which comes the habit of being together because you either can't afford to or don't want to split up because of your children where you snatch the little moments of happiness when you can.
Wait for the habit part unless one of you really hates the other in which case give up kids or not because as heartbreaking as that faliure is for the rest of your life it's nothing compared to the misery of the alternative.
Hope this helps it's the truth.

Mm, a relationship based entirely on habit, how appealing! 🙄 I don't agree that ALL relationships come to this ultimately, many yes but not all of them.