This goes back a long way. Many years ago my grandfather got another woman pregnant while my gran was still pregnant with my mother. He then left my gran and the two children (my mum and aunt) and they never saw him again. They divorced. My mother is now dead, but my gran is very old but still alive and in a nursing home. Out of the blue a letter has arrived from America from my mum and aunt's half-sister, who revealed there are a number of other half-siblings. My aunt wants nothing to do with it, and what happened caused enormous emotional problems for my mother (depression, over-eating, being a shopaholic). My gran has always refused to talk about it. Now this half-sister is very enthusiastic about being in contact with us. She sounds lovely - I have emailed her and my sister has spoken to her - but I do still feel a lot of anger towards the b, her father (and her mother) - now both dead - who caused so much misery amongst the family I know. On the other hand, it's not the American siblings' fault. There's also another concern that I have a very busy life - fulltime job; husband and kids and not enough time to see the relatives I've grown up with and love - the American people are, after all, complete strangers apart from a blood link. Has anyone encountered anything like this and could give me their thoughts? I've searched the net and there's loads of stuff about people searching for long-lost relatives, but nothing I can find about how people have coped when it's you that has been found and the reason for the lost contact has been unhappy (as it often will be). Thanks