"Why wouldn't I? You are a piece of shit".

[LadyTrevelyan]

Trying to sort out summer holiday arrangements and snapped when he began the talking down to me. Told him, very firmly , to not talk to me that way and he said the above. His partner (was ow) laughing in the background .

It's been nearly three years and I am honestly doing fine but this has hit hard. We were together nearly twenty and he seems (they?) Gleeful and spiteful. However, I'm not without my nastiness.

I hope they both get the shits.

I'm so jealous of his partner right now. He sounds so sexy, such a great catch, and she sounds like a delight. I'm sure they are both very good at making people happy and finding inner peace. Oh how I wish I could be one of them!

On the bright side, at least you have escaped another twenty years with this twat.

Dickhead, try not to let it bother you x

It's great they've met each other as it saves fucking up two other perfectly decent people really. Pair of turds.

Probably only thing they have to talk about is you and spend days thinking how upset you for a cheap thrill. They use their negativity towards you to bond with each other . Think about how pathetic that is for minute.
On some level they probably want you to react to prove you deserved to be cheated on to lessen their guilt

. Keep your dignity, you're worth so much more than that pair of losers.

There life must be so fucking dull if this is the only form of entertainment they can find.

You're the winner in this as she has him now, give them no further headspace & refuse to engage with him when he talks down to you.

Wow. What a pathetic pair. Congratulations on getting rid of him, and just imagine how shit it must be living with either one of them with them behaving like that. rise above!

Her loss, your gain.

What an abject wanker.

Try to see it as a 'thank fuck I don't have to live with that any more.'
They sound utterly hideous.

My ex once said something horrible in front of his mates and I turned and said, 'I hope your dick goes black and drops off on your birthday' . I don't know where that came from but they all had a laugh at his expense. He didn't enter into a slanging match though whereas your delight of an ex may.

I would consider changing the way you hand over the kids or come up against him generally though. If he can't keep a civil tongue then he may be expected to jump though hoops. I wouldn't consider actually sharing the same airspace as him if he was going to be rude.

Well he can call you a piece of shit if he wants. I can call myself Mercedes and sit in the garage but it doesn't make me a luxury car!

I can tell you that quite a few years on down the road I would laugh my head off if my ex called me a piece of shit! There's a name for that - projection.

He sounds like an epic tool, you're best out of it

I'd say something like, " I'm so relieved I'm a sophisticated person with a large and appropriate vocabulary who isn't married to a chav anymore." With a head tilt and a suitably understanding smile of course.

Oh god they just sound like the most boring people! Nothint better to do! Be thankful every day that you're not them! He sounds about 14 years old!

They sound made for each other! Nasty nasty.

Honestly-nobody speaks to another human like that without it saying nothing about you and EVERYTHING about them.

I'd go for a dry "nice one" with a smirk and keep making the arrangements. Let it wash over you, what they have to say about you has zero value. It simple doesn't count.

You're ace, they sound hideous. Take the moral high ground, it's really lovely up here!

Well don't they deserve each other, what a pair of charmers. Is there any way you can change the method you have contact with this horrible man? Maybe email only would work.

Lucky, lucky other woman, what a prize she has won.
I second email only contact if at all possible and try to rise above his twattishness.

I think it is very common (for complete idiots) for people to project traits they themselves have onto others.

eg 'you are such al liar" (I am a liar)

in your case "you are a piece of shit" (I am a piece of shit)

It sounds like him and new partner are very well suited. Good luck to both of them!

Thank you for your replies. Yes, I will go back to email or text but the annoying fucker ignores them so I phoned.

For the first time I would welcome an infestation of nits, nicely ripened for the weekend.