My DH and I have been married for 5 years and have 2 children, DS1 is 4 and DS2 is 8 weeks.
During the week an resentment I was feeling came to a head and we had a "discussion" about how I felt invisible to him as a person in my own right and could be anyone, so long as what I do day to day was being done. I don't think he really understood what I meant but promised he would take more time to consider me and generally try and be a bit more attentive.
Don't get me wrong, he is an amazing dad and takes his fair share of childcare when he gets home from work (if off on Mat leave just now). It's silly things that niggle such as me asking him to make sure he does his dishes (his one household chore) before bed and he doesn't. So I come down during the night or in the morning with the baby to a stack of dishes. I can't sit all day and look at them so end up doing them.
Anyway, after having the discussion last week that he would try harder to appreciate/really see me. Yesterday he forgot my birthday. I didn't expect gifts, we're skint with only his wages coming in, but a "happy birthday" would have been nice, or even getting up at half 6 and feeding the baby so I could get a half hour lie in before the big one woke.
I don't know if I'm blowing this out of proportion, or what I can say to get him to understand how much of an afterthought in his life I feel. Like a glorified housemaid, or his mother or something.