DP/ex and my birthday

[FedupofbeingtoldIcantusemyname]

Ok, this is more of an AIBU, and I'm 99% that I am being unreasonable even as I write it but I can't face the AIBU section at the moment as I'm feeling very emotionally fragile!

My birthday is very soon. DP and I broke up very recently (think, a week ago) and so are still living together for the time being until we sort things out.

We're in a weird place at the moment, we broke up because he tells me he wants to be single at the moment and has struggled with depression lately so I think part of it is him pushing me away because he's too tired emotionally from dealing with his own issues to think about considering me and my feelings too, which I can understand to a degree having suffered from depression in the past myself. However, since we 'broke up', he is still quite affectionate and still wants sex, etc so it's confusing for me.

Anyways, I have told him several times (probably 5 or so) that I wanted to go out for a meal for my birthday since my birthday party was an epic fail (see my other thread about that) and I wanted to do at least something to mark the occasion. He came back tonight, telling me all about what he had planned for tomorrow night (doing his hobby with his mates). So he completely forgot and is not coming out with me for my birthday.

I KNOW I'm being unreasonable because we are, technically, broken up and he had no obligation to me at all but up until today he was still up for coming out with me and now he's just binned me off for a better offer. So even after 3 years he just really doesn't care enough to a) remember my fucking birthday and b) put himself aside for one day and come out with me.

Just fucking fed up.

Ok I'm going to be brutally honest here.
Stop shagging him.
this has nothing to do with being depressed. he just wants to have his cake and eat it.
Leave him the fuck alone.
Blank him as much as possible (ie only talk about what you REALLY need to, ie ''are you using the washing machine/shower/insert other appliance here?'' ''Nope. Crack on'') until you can leave. you are putting yourself through this shit.
STOP IT.
please. you're making a fool of yourself. keep your legs firmly closed.

Come on. You're a grown woman talking like you can't handle the basics of life on your own. You need to move out - what's the alternative? Stay with him as his occasional fuck friend slash housekeeper while he plays at being single? So what if money will be tight when you move out? Of course it will. Being single is expensive! But it's necessary for your self esteem and emotional wellbeing to be independent from him. There are lodgings you could find that would not be too expensive and without waiting for tenancy agreements you could move by the weekend.

You're going to have to break the cycle OP. Exactly as Oreo says. You're letting him use you. You're broken up, he could bring home a new woman & you while it might hurt he wouldn't be doing anything wrong.

He's an EX. Time to move on.

You're only a young woman, there's a whole exciting big world waiting for you. You've been with 2 men who suited you for a while then didn't suit you anymore. It's not the end of the world

Think of the ex as somebody you can see disappearing in the rear view mirror! Next.

You need to move out. You have no right to expect him to leave or try and kick him out. If someone tried to kick me out of my place, I would tell them to get fucked. Your name isn't on the tenancy. I really don't know what you are waiting for. Pack your stuff and go.

OP he's treating you badly and you are allowing it. Please stop.

How are you going to feel the first time he goes out and sleeps with another woman? Or worse brings one home.

Because he will.

Find a flat share or room to rent.

It's great that you aren't on the tenancy because when you leave you aren't responsible for the rent or any potential damage to the property so win win.

Please have respect for yourself and stop having sex with this person and if your sister has a couch ask if you can sleep on it for a bit.

No, I wouldn't even try and kick him out teenagers. It's his home too and at the end of the day even if he is a bit inconsiderate, I can't punish him for breaking up with me that would just be spiteful and petty.

I don't think he would bring anyone back, at least not yet but I know there will be a time when he wants to and I won't be there when he does! I don't plan on staying for long, just until I can sort myself out somewhere else.

Ok time to be blunt again (yes I feel like a bitch, but yes you need to hear it) But with all due respect you aren't sorting yourself out. you aren't making plans. you don't seem to be doing anything productive other than whining because he wouldn't come out with you on your birthday.
he is your ex
please stop making a bloody fool of yourself. start packing your stuff now. you've had a relationship breakdown. go stay on someones floor/sofa/spare room and declare as homeless at your local council (which you will be classed as as someone sofa surfing with no fixed address) and rebuild your life from there on.