My 10 year wedding anniversary is coming up, and I'm debating what to do.
I have always given a gift to DH. It may be something small like a ticket for a football game or Ive gone as far as getting him a ps4 one year. I always try and get something that he would like depending at the time how much money we / I have.
Over the 10 years I don't recall ever getting a gift or a card off him. I may have possibly got a DVD one year after he received a large gift off me he went to tesco and got the first thing he could think of.
A couple of times he's not remembered at all, other times he has aknowledged the day a few days before but then not even said happy anniversary on the day.
The last three years he has been with working shifts over our anniversary so we have not even been for a meal.
Tbh every year I have been disappointed. He doesn't do cards but even a card or cheap flowers just something would mean the world to me. Every year after being disappointed I vow to myself I won't get anything next year, but I do.
So the time has come again, I don't know what to do for the best. I don't think I will get anything as we have hardly any money in our joint account. But if he does and I get him nothing I will feel bad.
I spoke to my friend who knows me and DHs history and she said get something small but do not give it to him if he doesn't remember. I will see him in the morning of our anniversary, she said say nothing and once he gets to work text and tell him. She remembered how upset I was a few years ago, after he forgot he took me out for a meal and barely spoke to me couldn't wait to get out of there. We went home and watched tv. I had bought a lovely underwear set I thought he would like. He saw me get dressed and said "I don't know why you bothered getting that as sexy underwear does nothing for me"
Since then I have done a token gift but I've not gone all out as that fucking hurt.
What do you think? Get something or not bother?