Having an affair?

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Hi
My partner wears all her sexy black underwear during the week to work, but at weekends its all her old faded white underwear... She has also taken to wearing padded bras during the week.
Am I just being paranoid to wonder why she feels it essential to look great in the office and not care at weekends and wear all her sexiest underwear to work and not at home.
Is this something you all do to?
Thanks

Have you asked her?

Grow up.

Maybe because when she is at home, she feels more comfortable to wear her white faded ones .....

Yes, a tad paranoid I think.

No, it seems petty so would feel stupid.
Just want to get a female perspective as to if its normal and I am being paranoid.

You are asking why someone would want to look good at work and relax at home?

Or you want people to discuss their underwear. Nice try.

How would we know more than you when supposedly you know her a bit?

Some women will be the same as her. Some won't. Shocker.

There's no way of telling from that, really.

Is there anything else that makes you suspect an affair?

She most likely just wants to be comfy at home with you. Sexy underwear is usually uncomfortable (trying to remember far enough back to when I last wore it )

I understand wanting to look good, just don't understand how underwear come into that as no one should see it...are you saying that if your husband had favourite underwear and he started wearing them only for work you wouldnt find it odd?

Sexy underwear to work sounds weird. I would go for something comfortable to work and nicer when with my husband.

It can give you confidence to wear nice stuff even if no-one will see it.

Anything that is white and faded, just makes it white doesn't it?

Not the point, I know...

You need to have more than this to jump on her having an affair.

Has she changed her other usual routines?

More late nights at work?
Going to the gym or spending more time there ?
Secrecy with her phone ?
Increased social activity?
More sex or less sex with you?
Snappier towards you?

One thing alone,.unless it's a smoking gun won't be conclusive.

Hth

You could buy yourself some to wear, then you would have the best of both worlds, wouldn't you?

I agree, sexy underwear is uncomfortable. I change into my scraggy bras when I chill at night.

Normal, unless there's something else making you suspicious then I wouldn't give it a second thought.

There's a feel good factor about wearing nice lingerie. It doesn't have to be seen by anyone, it's how it feels against your skin.

The fact that she's not hiding it from you, would also make any cheating less likely, as that's a common clue. It's not like she wears the white knickers and changes into her sexy ones at work ...... which I've known cheating women to do in the past.

If she's having an affair, she will be super secretive with her phone.

Underwired bras are sooo uncomfortable, no way would I wear one around the house prefer to be bra less at home

Maybe buy her something extra special to wear at weekends.

I think she is wearing it to make herself feel and look good at work and then she's relaxing on a weekend. I think it's great that you notice what underwear she's wearing and when.

Hmm it would ring alarm bells with me. Especially if this has just recently started happening. Is she ever late home from work? How's your relationship in general?

I wear nice underwear most of the time, not for anyone special (except my bf) i wear them because it makes me feel good. At night i change into something more comfortable and bf is fine with it. I would be slightly concerned if shes just started doing it but only if there was something else that was weird to me.

Seems fine to me, if I want to be smart just naturally sometimes it's starts from even the underwear. At home I want to be slobby and comfy. Never in a million years would I contemplate an affair it's just like a confidence/ feeling thing I guess?

Honestly I can see it either way:

1. She feels more "put together" when she's in matching underwear. She doesn't see it as sexy, she sees it as "looking her best" and putting her best foot forward.

1. She is having an affair and someone else is seeing the attractive underwear.

TBH though without more evidence or other suspicious activity (leaving for work early, getting back later, secretive with phone etc etc) I'd be more inclined to believe #1.

I wear much nicer clothes at work and "slob it up" when I get home. DH loves me either way though obviously.