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Break up or keep trying?

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Jemima1985 · 10/07/2016 21:14

Hi ladies... First time posting! After lying in bed upset and stressed all day I'm hoping there is someone to talk to and give me advice.

Been with my bf for nearly 5 years... I'm 30 and he's 25. He has been struggling with depression for a year which has been difficult to cope with. I have supported him through this. He has been on an alcohol ban.

This weekend he has gone off the rails, drunk, taken drugs and lied to me about it. I am so hurt and worried for his health. I have given him chance after chance and don't know how much more I can take!

Do I leave... or keep trying

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LadyStarkOfWinterfell · 11/07/2016 09:09

2 important things to know-
1- staying in a bad relationship because of the time you have already invested is throwing good money after bad. Google the sink costs fallacy.
2- just because he's ill, doesn't mean you have to accept poor treatment and behaviour. Just because you love him, doesn't mean you should put up with it.

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user1467958533 · 11/07/2016 09:41

Hi Jemima1985,
From my opinion, you should hire a professional couple therapist, who can understand your problems and helps you to improve your relationship.
Thanks!!